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I just finished my psych eval. I passed and the doctor is also going to take me on as her patient after surgery! I love therapy! Everyday my life is about family, work, and most of all - my twin 5 year olds. To have a solid hour once a week that is about only ME is great. I can't wait!

I've done the whole BS a therapist gig in my past (forced to see a therapist young after my mother passed away) and I know for a fact that doesn't help. We all got to our weights for a reason - we all have a food addiction or eating disorder. We have all overeatten and been depressed about it.

You are not alone in this struggle but don't for a minute think having surgery will "fix" your bulimia. You need to put the work in. And we will all be here to support you!

Good luck :)

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I see people every day on this site post that they are going CRAZY because they are not losing weight "fast enough" or are on a stall... What am I doing wrong? What can I do to start losing weight again? What can I do to lose faster? ...and generally feeling out of control of their bodies and life experience. The sleeve does help us to lose weight and if we follow the rules, and have faith in the process, and develop patients and a long view, it works. If you have a chronic go-to like purging or starving or overexercising or using sugars as a sedation drug... the temptation to practice them will still be intense! This is not to keep you away from researching the sleeve, but to really understand that it is not a quick fix! It is not brain surgery. Best of luck to you, and surgery may be great for you to lose weight... just make sure you have the other stuff in hand first.

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Either you want it candy coated or straight up? I think when you said "No my surgeon does not require a mental evaluation, but I have been through enough therapists and counselors to BS my way out of anything"...I find that sort of disturbing. I am a firm believer in therapy if you have a "disorder". I am in therapy for my ED..what's the point of lying? So you can have surgery? Then you've lied to the psych and yourself and 1 surgery later you still have an eating disorder. Till you get your head in the right place and face the issues you have by getting into some good therapy and give them no "BS", you will still have the same issues. It's like trying to fix a broken leg by pulling your tooth.

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There's a reason that almost all the surgeons require a psych eval before surgery. It's not just to make extra money. If you aren't upfront and honest with your surgeon then you are setting yourself up to fail. Many people regain their weight a few years after surgery because they don't deal with the underlying issues. Please don't go into this believing that the surgery will fix the problems in your head.

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I do not have experience with bulimia, but I was under the impression that bulimia was a contradiction to weight loss surgery. Most of the guidelines for weight loss surgery limit it people over 40 BMI or over 35 with comorbidities. I guess the reason for this is that it is a very drastic step! I guess it is obvious - but this is a permanent removal of part of your stomach. It would really suck to do it and still struggle with the gain/loss cycle because of the underlying bulimia issues.

I am very sympathetic to how useless counselors are though - I really have lost faith in talk therapy. I get more out of talking to supportive friends. I did find EMDR to be a very useful treatment for post traumatic stress, but I am not sure if treatments like that are useful for eating disorders.

Hope you find support in resolving this. I am glad you shared this with us here, and I would encourage you to share this with your surgeon before you are operated on. Take care

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This is a support board but there are a lot of veterans on here who we also rely on for good, sound advice (and not a bunch of candy-coated BS). For your health, I would STRONGLY recommend counseling for the underlying eating disorder before jumping right to surgery. At the very worst, if you don't follow the protocols of the post-surgical diet and binge shortly thereafter, you could have serious, serious implications to your health due to a leak or rupture of your staple line. At the very least, you'll quickly learn to binge around your sleeve and you will not help solve the underlying problem.

I'm sure I can speak for many in this community when I wish you the best of luck, but also hope that you take the time to evaluate what this will mean for you before making a rash decision.

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