Losing touch

[illgeturhairdid 176]

Hi guys, another question for those who have already had their surgery.

Prior to surgery did you feel like you lost interest in other areas of your life? I still go to work, do my college courses, clean, cook and all the things you have to do. However, it all just feels like something I now have to do to kill time until December. Family members seem to be getting annoyed with me because VSG is one of the only things I want to talk about anymore.

I don't think that I'm obsessing, it just seems like every day I've learned something new and want to talk about it with my family because I am excited. Did any of you feel this way? Like the daily motions are just time killers? That all you are interested in is getting the next 41 (who's counting lol) days over with?

Thanks,

Danielle

[Lissa 2,631]

I kind of felt like I was in suspended animation, waiting for the "rest of my life" to start. Now that I've had surgery and am back on solid foods, it just feels like normal day to day stuff, mostly. I "have to" eat so many grams of Protein, "have to" drink so much Water, just like I have to breathe, shower, get dressed and work. And, for me, the scale is a daily part of my life, too. I'm not obsessing over it, just checking where I'm at today. That will probably taper off as I drop lower, but be prepared for that.

I wish you luck and joy on your journey. Once the surgery is over, enjoy the process of losing weight, getting smaller, and being able to exercise more. I'm loving the new strength and abilities I have and you will too!

[DisneyAddict 10]

I kind of felt like I was in suspended animation, waiting for the "rest of my life" to start. Now that I've had surgery and am back on solid foods, it just feels like normal day to day stuff, mostly. I "have to" eat so many grams of Protein, "have to" drink so much Water, just like I have to breathe, shower, get dressed and work. And, for me, the scale is a daily part of my life, too. I'm not obsessing over it, just checking where I'm at today. That will probably taper off as I drop lower, but be prepared for that.

I wish you luck and joy on your journey. Once the surgery is over, enjoy the process of losing weight, getting smaller, and being able to exercise more. I'm loving the new strength and abilities I have and you will too!

Suspended animation is a good way to describe it. There's so much to look forward to afterwards. Danielle I think your feelings are pretty normal. What you're doing is a big big deal and it's normal to feel excited about it. Kind of the way someone talks non stop for months before a big trip somewhere. That's all people think about, want to talk about, etc. I found myself cruising shopping sites for NORMAL SIZED clothes like on a daily basis lol. Thinking about what I'd want to buy and wear and how my "look" would be. My "look" for the last 10 years had consisted of stretchy pj pants & ginormous tshirts.. not quite a look huh? LOL I found doing that and thinking of things in the future I wanted to buy, wear or do.. helped me not to "torture" my friends & family with non-stop talk of the surgery. It gave me a bit of a self-fix I guess you could say.

[SKCUNNINGHAM 298]

This whole process - from the studying about VSG to the 6 months prepwork, then the enormous changes after surgery are all very inward-focused. I have felt throughout the long-process that I have been very self-absorbed. I spend less time thinking about the concerns of the wider world and more time thinking about how to respond to the demands of daily life without the crutch of my old "frenemy" and crutch food. My conversations are now more likely to be about the latest interesting article I have read (concerning something to do with weight loss) than the latest scandal in the news. My joys I share are as likely to be about myself (surprising in itself) than the lastest accomplishment of my grandchildren. I feel like how I imagine an alcoholic must feel, learning to function after they have given up alcohol. I understand why they go to AA meetings every day - and why I feel compelled to come visit this site a couple of times a day.

I worry I am about as annoying to be around as a college freshmen in their first psychology class, that comes home and wants to analyze all the family members and relationships. I hope my family doesn't cringe when they are around me from being tired of my focus.

One of my new year resolutions is going to be to become more outwardly focused again - but not to the point I don't put myself high enough on the priority list to make sure I get what I need.

Very interesting topic on conversation. I will think more on this!

[Missnurse 9]

Danielle,

I haven't had surgery yet...

But I have always known that I have lost interest in other areas of my life. I don't go out and do certain things because I guess I'm hiding behind my weight. I am having my surgery 1 day before you and I have already started doing things that I would usually shy away from. I don't know if family members are getting annoyed with me since only my parents know. Maybe my mom cause I talk to her daily about this surgery but her and my husband are my #1 supporters. I am sure my bff is annoyed cause I am always texting her or chatting online about it or giving her links to before and after pictures just because I am amazed at what this surgery can do and that I also cannot wait for it to happen to me. I am constantly on this site reading as much as I can.

I hope the time flies for both of us!!

Natalie

Hi guys, another question for those who have already had their surgery.

Prior to surgery did you feel like you lost interest in other areas of your life? I still go to work, do my college courses, clean, cook and all the things you have to do. However, it all just feels like something I now have to do to kill time until December. Family members seem to be getting annoyed with me because VSG is one of the only things I want to talk about anymore.

I don't think that I'm obsessing, it just seems like every day I've learned something new and want to talk about it with my family because I am excited. Did any of you feel this way? Like the daily motions are just time killers? That all you are interested in is getting the next 41 (who's counting lol) days over with?

Thanks,

Danielle

[Mel34 11]

Hi guys, another question for those who have already had their surgery.

Prior to surgery did you feel like you lost interest in other areas of your life? I still go to work, do my college courses, clean, cook and all the things you have to do. However, it all just feels like something I now have to do to kill time until December. Family members seem to be getting annoyed with me because VSG is one of the only things I want to talk about anymore.

I don't think that I'm obsessing, it just seems like every day I've learned something new and want to talk about it with my family because I am excited. Did any of you feel this way? Like the daily motions are just time killers? That all you are interested in is getting the next 41 (who's counting lol) days over with?

Thanks,

Danielle

Danielle,

I'm in the same boat you are in. I hope my surgery will be in January, though. I thought i was the only one feeling like this, but glad i'm not. I got about 51 days left and it's just like i'm going with the flow... wake up, go to work, come home, play with my kid, go to sleep. next day is the same thing. And my family give me frustrated looks everytime I bring it up. Don't get me wrong, they are all very supportive, but it just seems like the more I think about it, the slower the days go by. And all the clothes I use to wear, are pushed to the back of the closet because I just don't feel like getting all dressed up anymore. I just wear the same baggy clothes all the time. I don't know if I'm just getting more depressed or what, but this feeling kinda sucks.

melissa

[Neese 75]

Thank you for asking this! I didn't know how to put how I was feeling into words. And thank you to everyone for posting your responses. You all have provided me with great insight. Good luck to everyone on our journeys (:

[illgeturhairdid 176]

I am so happy to find out I'm not the only one experiencing this! The days are flying by but at the same time dragging! I don't feel as though my excitement for surgery has decreased at all, just that my interest in every day life has changed. Not that I'm not interested in it, but I'm MUCH MUCH MUCH more interested in the surgery. Heck, my birthday is even this week and I couldn't really care, I just want December 8th!!

[BenisaMartim4 369]

This sounds completely normal to me. This is an extremely huge event in your life. It is just like a marriage or birth (people talk about that with every breath and that is not considered strange). We are committing ourselves to a new life (marriage) and are coming out a whole new person (re-birth). You be just as excited as you want and if no one wants to listen keep a diary or blog. My family is not supportive. All I can say is when I get thin, I can be like :0P no thanks to you. They haven't let the air out of my balloon any.

[Raine 170]

I went through it too, before and after. Some friends even say I "changed".

[Mel34 11]

I went through it too, before and after. Some friends even say I "changed".

See, that's what I'm afraid of. Did they say that you changed for the better or worse? I don't think I will change, i'm just afraid that people might be jealous and just say that.

[longer-life 139]

I feel similar to you, except I'm obsessed. Lol. I haven't read a good book in months and I come here many times a day. I had a very good time at a wedding last night, but I daydreamed for weeks about ways to get out of it because I want everything to happen after surgery. I also bored my great family members and what did I do? Come here more often, of course! LOl

I am actually making an effort I don't develop unrealistic expectations. I am making sure to not have selective reading. I try to let the good, back & the ugly sink in, not just the good.

@Mel. I know I will be told I've changed, even if I don't. I learned that when I became a supervisor years ago. A "friend/coworker" kept telling me that but her face kept betraying her. It was clear she wasn't happy for me, I had not changed.

Besides, I will change after surgery. My core values won't, but being happier & more energetic will bring changes and some people can't take it. Too bad, so sad. Can't please everyone.

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

hi - my husband, daughter and mom are the only ones that know about my upcoming surgery 12/6/11. my husband is really the only one i talk to about the WLS. I wish I had never told daughter and mom. Oh well. I know I'm obsessive and talk alot about the sleeve and the surgery to my DH. He listens well, but sometimes I realize I've been talking about the WLS way too much.

I stop talking about it for a few days. Then I start up again oh well. I love to go on different sites about all this stuff too. If thats all obsessing, then i am guilty!!! I cant' wait til tuesday, 11/1, when i can officially say my surgery is next month.

going to visit my mom for 4 days mid november, then going away again for the holiday. This will make time fly, Before I know it, it will be time for the sleeve. Can't wait, like you - i'm just so excited I can't think of anything else, and thats ok. We made a big decision for the surgery, i know it will be worth it for all, and it is starting a new chapter in our lives - can't wait to start the book, but i will be patient until i get to the end. Even though it will be a forever book... kathy

[DisneyAddict 10]

re-birth

This couldn't be more true. PERFECT way to put it!

[yecats 109]

Meeeeeee!

Since I decided and made my mind up , and found this site, that is pretty much all I live.

The surgery is related to everything I encounter now. No one knows excepts for my husband, he is tired of hearing about it. He is way supportive but asks me to cool it just a little. Everything relates somehow to being sleeved. He asked me if I want to hear about fishing and football 24/7. That is when I got the point.

It is like a stepped into this world of new hope. I feel alive, excited, energetic. I just shared with a friend on this site today that I am sleeved out, believe I might be sleeved stressed from overload sleeve talk.

I have to stop and allow, make myself sleep, eat and breath something other than the sleeve. I do get frustrated because it feels like I am sitting on a turtles back lollygagging down the slooowwwww uphill road.

I never did spend to much time on Facebook anyway, but this is my new facebook now.

ICAN NOT WAIT to live start the 2week pre op, the pain the misery, bring it on!!!!!

I am inspired to eat less, eat slowly and not drink with meals. I have slowly been trying to emplement things to live out my future.

It really is frustrating because I am playing the waiting game with finances. I am praying for my sleeve surgery to happen at the beginning of the year, if all works out right.