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The girls at work oh why ?? why do I ever bring up weight loss to them ?? I mentioned I am in a medium top ( dont ask how this came up) and this one chick that is supposed to be a good friend says " you havent lost much weight lately have you?? I am all " i lose 10 a month on avarage" she says I lost 10 a month for the past 2 months with no surgery ??? wow ok mind you she is a pretty big girl I really couldnt tell at all but whatever, friggn haters man just cant stand them. I just remarked well i have dieted and lost before in my life and just gained it back so thats why I did it, she replys well if you dont diet and exercise of course you will gain it back.....i was done at that point just made an excuse to walk away ..people are sad

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Don't let it get you down..She is jealous!!!!!!!

Just wait a couple of months when you are still losing and she has gained back her so called 20 pounds PLUS more... You will be looking awesome in your smalls by then :)

Julie

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I think it's probably her own insecurities that keep her from congratulating you and showing approval. Unfortunately, she probably sees it as 'the easy way out' which it most certainly is not. It seems as though she is jealous of your new healthy life that you will be leading, and she knows that she will not lose the weight and keep it off, hence why she's comparing her weight loss to yours. I know it isnt easy esp when she tries to bring you down, but kill her with kindness, that's probably what she needs in her life anyway.

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Just green eyed jealousy that you are losing weight and she/they wish they were. They probably dislike success of others to begin with.

Hate to say Be Happy from their comments but hey you are making an impression so Be Happy!

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And you allow these negative vibes around you for what??!!

Haters will always be haters. Soon she'll really be hating you and talking about you so get over it now and don't have that discussion about your size any more. Just let them watch you shrink. That is when not just the green eyes but the GREEN MONSTER will show up. I say keep it to yourself and let them drool over your new found health and happiness.

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And you allow these negative vibes around you for what??!!

Haters will always be haters. Soon she'll really be hating you and talking about you so get over it now and don't have that discussion about your size any more. Just let them watch you shrink. That is when not just the green eyes but the GREEN MONSTER will show up. I say keep it to yourself and let them drool over your new found health and happiness.

Ditto what she said. I have this one woman in the office that used to complain to me about her comorbidities and how horrible she feels and how she tries to diet etc etc. She mentioned my weightloss once and asked how I did it I told her about the surgery and diet and how I am in remission with most of my comorbidities, and how great I feel, her response was "Oh" and she hasn't spoken to me since. Oh well, her problem not mine. I still smile and nod as we pass eachother too.

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I am sorry to hear that. This is the exact reason I only told family and my best friend. I didnt want people to think that I didnt work just as hard to lose weight as those who didnt have surgery. I hate that it has come to people thinking surgery is the easy weight out. We all know if we really wanted to do nothing we could stay fat with the sleeve, but we all work to lose.

Sorry to vent.

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