What to expect 7 months after surgery

[gordatoflaca 1]

I'm happy and dissapointed at the same time. I have lost a total of 67 pounds (includes pre-surgery weightloss) but I'm wondering if it is not enough considering the time that has passed. I feel great physically but emotionally it has been a rollercoaster. Especially when it pertains to my marriage. People have been supportive and others have just been MEAN. This experience was alot harder than I thought but when I think about the energy I have gotten back, and the activities that I can do with my kids, it is so worth it. Although I never considered myself extremely obese, under medical standards, I guess I was. I am learning everyday about the changes I need to make and keep in order to succeed. Please if anyone is 7 months out, tell me about your weight loss. I want to see if I am doing ok .

P.S. my confidence has changed so much that I take more time in getting ready. I feel great. I feel beautiful. I've gone from a size 20 to a size 14. Sad part is that I lost my friends (boobs) lol. When I lose my goal weight, I plan on having surgery to remove excesssssssss skin and to make my boobs happy again.

Good Luck Everyone

[Beader 1]

Hi Newbie! OMG, my surgery is scheduled for Nov. 1st and after reading your post, I'm so excited I can't stand it. 67 lbs is so awesome, I can't figure why you would have any disappointment. That's a little over 2 lbs a week which everyone I spoke to says that's about right. That amount of weight loss in 7 months is just a dream away for me.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Be happy you're not in the same place as you were a year ago. I haven't decided whether or not to tell anyone yet. I failed with the band that I had gotten in 2008 (well, it failed me with a leak that they couldn't find for three years) but I'm afraid if I don't do well with the sleeve, I'll look like a total loser with two failed surgeries. Not a good attitude, I know, but reading this makes me sooooooooooooooo hopeful. Thanks so much for your post and keep on keepin' on. As they say, "you've come a long way baby". lol

I'm happy and dissapointed at the same time. I have lost a total of 67 pounds (includes pre-surgery weightloss) but I'm wondering if it is not enough considering the time that has passed. I feel great physically but emotionally it has been a rollercoaster. Especially when it pertains to my marriage. People have been supportive and others have just been MEAN. This experience was alot harder than I thought but when I think about the energy I have gotten back, and the activities that I can do with my kids, it is so worth it. Although I never considered myself extremely obese, under medical standards, I guess I was. I am learning everyday about the changes I need to make and keep in order to succeed. Please if anyone is 7 months out, tell me about your weight loss. I want to see if I am doing ok .

P.S. my confidence has changed so much that I take more time in getting ready. I feel great. I feel beautiful. I've gone from a size 20 to a size 14. Sad part is that I lost my friends (boobs) lol. When I lose my goal weight, I plan on having surgery to remove excesssssssss skin and to make my boobs happy again.

Good Luck Everyone

[wondering1 103]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm soooo excited for you about your 67 pound loss and your new size and energy I hope I do as well when I am 7 months out.

[SKCUNNINGHAM 298]

You are doing great! My surgery date was 2/22 so I am almost 8 months out. I have lost 99 pounds as of today - but that includes the 12 pounds I lost on the 2 week preop diet. We all lose at different rates, so don't drive yourself crazy comparing yourself to others. Focus on all the good stuff that has happened to you. Continue to practice the good habits that got you to where you are: eating sufficient Protein, eating Protein first, drinking your fluids, not drinking when you eat, exercising, and staying away from slider foods.

This isn't a race to see who loses weight the fastest - if this WERE a contest - the race I would want to win is who stays at goal weight the LONGEST. I know it's going to take a while to get to goal - but as long as I am moving in that direction - I am OK with the pace.

Be good to yourself - and good luck with the rest of the journey.

[gordatoflaca 1]

Thanks Everyone, I really need this type of support. My after surgery was not quite what I expected. I wish you all strenght and great success. Not trying to be "Debbie Downer" but this experience didnt work out the way I imagined. The truth is that I did it in the hopes of helping my marriage out (or so I thought). It seems that the opposite has happened. And before anyone jumps to conclusions, No, it's not cause of I'm being unfaithful or even wanting to be. It seems like my husband has lost complete interest in me and that devastates me. I've received MANY great compliments but instead of feeling flattered, I feel angry that it's not coming from my husband. Everyday I work on my self esteem. It's funny though cause I really do feel better but for some reason I let his actions (or lack of) take over. I love my husband so much and I really thought that I would have his support. I have been blessed with wonderful co-workers that have had other bariatric surgeries and offer me advice. I am learning a lesson and that lesson is that I have to make myself happy and not depend on anyone else for it. GOOD LUCK ALL, and thanks again for your comments.

[Julie76 251]

Thanks Everyone, I really need this type of support. My after surgery was not quite what I expected. I wish you all strenght and great success. Not trying to be "Debbie Downer" but this experience didnt work out the way I imagined. The truth is that I did it in the hopes of helping my marriage out (or so I thought). It seems that the opposite has happened. And before anyone jumps to conclusions, No, it's not cause of I'm being unfaithful or even wanting to be. It seems like my husband has lost complete interest in me and that devastates me. I've received MANY great compliments but instead of feeling flattered, I feel angry that it's not coming from my husband. Everyday I work on my self esteem. It's funny though cause I really do feel better but for some reason I let his actions (or lack of) take over. I love my husband so much and I really thought that I would have his support. I have been blessed with wonderful co-workers that have had other bariatric surgeries and offer me advice. I am learning a lesson and that lesson is that I have to make myself happy and not depend on anyone else for it. GOOD LUCK ALL, and thanks again for your comments.

Men have a strange way of showing things sometimes. My boyfriend just this morning told me how proud he is and that he needs to do a better job of letting me know that. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend and he blow my mind with a vary romantic dance and told me he felt like the luckiest man in the world..... However.... This morning was only like the third time he said something about the way I look. So I asked why he doesn't notice more often? He said he notices but didn't want to make a big deal about it because he didn't want me to think he was unhappy with me before I lost the weight. Now I understand his way of thinking. Sometimes you just gotta ask the question. Communication is the key.

Good luck and don't be so hard on yourself.

[Anakin Jay 39]

Men have a strange way of showing things sometimes. My boyfriend just this morning told me how proud he is and that he needs to do a better job of letting me know that. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend and he blow my mind with a vary romantic dance and told me he felt like the luckiest man in the world..... However.... This morning was only like the third time he said something about the way I look. So I asked why he doesn't notice more often? He said he notices but didn't want to make a big deal about it because he didn't want me to think he was unhappy with me before I lost the weight. Now I understand his way of thinking. Sometimes you just gotta ask the question. Communication is the key.

Good luck and don't be so hard on yourself.

As a guy, I can tell you that the first rule we learn as we're growing up is not to compliment women on losing weight.

Guy: "Hey Amanda, looking good, are you losing weight?"

Amanda's mouth: "Yes I am!"

Amanda's brain: "God is it that noticeable? Was I the joke of the office with my fatness? Excuse me Guy... I didn't realize I've spent the past 5 years here being your personal Macy's day parade float... You're such a pig. I hate you. I hate men. "

And then Guy has to spend the rest of the week wondering why Amanda is acting cold and distant towards him.

[Rev Me Up! 75]

sorry to hear about your marriage troubles. these surgeries can't really fix what is going on around us, unfortunately. i wish you luck in working that out.

i am in the 7th month and i have lost 57 pounds. still losing about 1/2 a pound a week. i am close to my made up goal, but could probably lose another 10-15 pounds down to the 120's. my body looks pretty natural at a very slim weight.

at 138 pounds, i am a size 10 pants and a size small shirt (i carry all my weight in my stomach and boobs). my butt is literally indented :-)

good luck---

[Lisa the loser 13]

I am 6 months (tommorro) and have lost a total of 57 pounds so to me 67 seems far away ! I have been a slow loser many many times during this prosses so I TOTALLY know what you feel but be positve and try to focus on the way you feel not what the scale says ( need to take my own advise ) LOL ,,Good Luck girl!!!!!!!!!!!

[Lisa the loser 13]

Also may I ask how tall you are??