My mom and husband are driving me crazy!!!

[A New Day 5]

I really wish someone in my life would support my decision to have VSG. My mom keeps trying to talk me out of it telling me I don't need it and asking me why I have to do it now. I told her I wasn't asking her permission but I have given her some info because I feel I owe it to her since she is staying with my 5 children for 5 days while we are in MX

Then there's my husband who is freaking me out telling me stories of druglords and mass murders in Mexico and telling me every day that it better be worth it. We're going to Mexicali and I'm trying to reassure him by all the people here I have seen have no safety issues as well as the info my patient coord. Nina has given us on the safety there.

I just feel like I'm going to explode with all this stress on top of preparing myself physically and emotionally for surgery. DAMN. I will be so glad when all this is behind me. I know in my heart this is what I have to do, I just need a little support!!!!!

[wannasleeve 10]

Well you have my support, it really is safe over there. My friend and I went on Sept. 2, from San Diego to TJ and everything was fine.

I had a wonderful experience and no pain what so ever, just some pressure but that's it. I was afraid of all the same stuff, drug lords, crime all that stuff. It was worse in my head than reality.

I have heard nothing but good things about the dr you have chosen. I am sure you will be fine.

but in my situation I didn't tell anyone in my family, but my husband. When I returned I told my mom.

Take care,

Laura

I really wish someone in my life would support my decision to have VSG. My mom keeps trying to talk me out of it telling me I don't need it and asking me why I have to do it now. I told her I wasn't asking her permission but I have given her some info because I feel I owe it to her since she is staying with my 5 children for 5 days while we are in MX

Then there's my husband who is freaking me out telling me stories of druglords and mass murders in Mexico and telling me every day that it better be worth it. We're going to Mexicali and I'm trying to reassure him by all the people here I have seen have no safety issues as well as the info my patient coord. Nina has given us on the safety there.

I just feel like I'm going to explode with all this stress on top of preparing myself physically and emotionally for surgery. DAMN. I will be so glad when all this is behind me. I know in my heart this is what I have to do, I just need a little support!!!!!

[emmas mom 4]

Oh boy! My family was the same way, except they wanted me to get the lapband. They all freaked out saying how new the sleeve was! But, I have it a month now, and, I am very happy! Still adjusting in some ways and dealing with head hunger, but, I feel great, losing slow and steady and it gets a little easier every day! My family is coming around now that its done! My husband was supportive of the surgery, but, he never educated him self about the sleeve and he is clueless, offers me ice cream and still serves me his size portions. I get all the support I need right here on this site! Everyone is so awesome here and they encourage you and guide you! Stick to this site and you will be fine!!!

[kemo46 82]

I really wish someone in my life would support my decision to have VSG. My mom keeps trying to talk me out of it telling me I don't need it and asking me why I have to do it now. I told her I wasn't asking her permission but I have given her some info because I feel I owe it to her since she is staying with my 5 children for 5 days while we are in MX

Then there's my husband who is freaking me out telling me stories of druglords and mass murders in Mexico and telling me every day that it better be worth it. We're going to Mexicali and I'm trying to reassure him by all the people here I have seen have no safety issues as well as the info my patient coord. Nina has given us on the safety there.

I just feel like I'm going to explode with all this stress on top of preparing myself physically and emotionally for surgery. DAMN. I will be so glad when all this is behind me. I know in my heart this is what I have to do, I just need a little support!!!!!

The best way to deal with your husband is have him research the crime statistics in Mexico and the U.S.. I am in Tijuana right now on business, it is just like any large city in the U.S., there are places you go and places you do not. I feel perfectly safe and I enjoy all the modern things as in the states like Starbucks and shopping malls. Is there crime here, sure there is, just like Dallas, Detroit or anywhere in the states. The media just blows things up as normal. By the way, I had my surgery in Tijuana in May of this year and I had no issues. Good luck and I hope you get your support.

[bikerchick519 202]

I know how you feel, my boyfriend is refusing to go with me so my dad and daughter are going. He just doesn't think I need it and doesn't think it's safe. It may end up being the end of our relationship because I feel like if he can't be by my side and support me through this then I can't count on him when I really need him. Atleast your husband is going with you, that's a start.

[thinoneday 445]

I feel your pain. But you have our support. I know we are just cyber buddies but having someone to talk to helps. your family is probably just "concerned" and show it in strange ways. My hubbie gets mad and upset when he is worried about me or one of the kids. . people show concern in different ways. Only you know if you need the surgery or not. And they will get over it eventually. Just bear with them for now and soon all will be forgotten. . . good luck and may the path you walk lead you in the right direction.