I NEED YOUR ADVICE!!!

[ChunkyAndFluffy75 9]

Hi my sleeve family I need some advice. I met a wonderful person online about 3 months ago and we have been talking, texting and emailing but we have not met. We have exchanged photos and really have developed a friendship and a budding relationship. We will be meeting for the first time this weekend and I am very excited, but I am not sure if I should tell about my upcoming wls in November. I have shared everything about myself except that. What would you do in my situation? How should I handle this?

[KellyL 173]

Hmmmmm, If it were me, I would at least wait to see how things progress after the first meeting. I wouldn't feel the need to tell them immediately. But if the relationship progresses further, then yes I would tell them. It's going to be a big part of your life and part of who you are. Hiding things in a relationship to some people is the same as lying, which would then possibly cause trust issues.

Good luck!

[Julie76 251]

Just curious if this person is on the heavier side also. If so, it may be a great conversation piece and he might even get the sleeve too. Not only that but there are so many questions to ask yourself..... Like, Will he still be attracted to me when I'm thin, or vice verse. Will you be ok with him being heavier when you are thin and getting a lot of attention from other men?

You never know...Some of those questions can save you a lot of heartache in the long run.

[MeMeMEEE 206]

I agree with telling at some point, November is a ways off so you have plenty of time to lead in to it. Regardless if the person is heavier or not, if they like a heavy woman then this could certainly change your relationship.

[ChunkyAndFluffy75 9]

He is tall and slim, 6’3 about 240lbs, and yes loves a thick women. So I don’t know if this news is going to change the course of the relationship.

[Julie76 251]

He is tall and slim, 6’3 about 240lbs, and yes loves a thick women. So I don’t know if this news is going to change the course of the relationship.

You might just want to start off with something like.... Hey I have a friend that had this done and was wondering what you thought about it....

Make it not so much about you at first to feel him out. Wouldn't it be great if he said " whatever makes you happy".

[exoticheart 5]

If he likes thick women, then I would definetely tell him asap. Because if that is one of his criteria you are not going to be that woman ever again after November And it might be better to find a man that will be willing to do the journey with you as you slim on down

He is tall and slim, 6’3 about 240lbs, and yes loves a thick women. So I don’t know if this news is going to change the course of the relationship.

[kellyw74 258]

If he likes you, he will like you for what you are and not what you look like!

I personally have not told a sole (except hubby about mine) but I think I would if I were you. That way, if he is only interested in you for your looks, then you won't get hurt when you are skinny! LOL

Kelly

[Tera 3]

If I could change anything about my life.... I would be honest with my man when I first met him. We have been together 25 years. .. and I still have secrets I can't reveal. Think about the future before you omit or lie.