LadyK44 263 Posted July 1, 2015 (edited) "When your grandmother tells you, "you're so beautiful now!Am I supposed to take that as a compliment?" It would make me mad and hurt my feelings! Sometimes even older people should just smile! Edited July 1, 2015 by LadyK44 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rogofulm 2,440 Posted July 1, 2015 When your grandmother tells you, "you're so beautiful now!" Am I supposed to take that as a compliment? Is that really so different than, "Wow, you look great!" (where the "now" is implied)? Seems to me that Grandma intended it as a compliment, even if it's somewhat clumsy. If we've lost weight, we all know how we used to look, right? And we know, firsthand, society's biases against heavy people, right? So the natural reaction when people lose weight is to think they look "better" than they used to. Try remembering what you thought when a friend or family member lost a lot of weight. Didn't you think they looked "better"? I think that's probably what Grammy had in mind. Of course, I don't have a history with her, so I could be totally wrong. But keep in mind that if we're successful on our journeys, we're going to hear a lot of compliments. That's part of the fun of this and helps keep us motivated. I've found that it's much easier (and nicer) to just accept compliments graciously, and feel proud of my accomplishments. At first I would reply, "Yeah, but I've still got such a long way to go." After a while, it became, "Yeah, but I'm getting so many wrinkles that I look 10 years older." And finally, I realized that the best answer is, "Thanks! I've been working hard at it." And everyone feels good about the exchange. Just a thought.... 1 njgal reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IzzyBelle 94 Posted July 1, 2015 When you finally get pregnant after 15 years disappointments and are looking forward to holding your first child around New Years! 2 Sherry Rice and Lillymunster reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rogofulm 2,440 Posted July 1, 2015 When you finally get pregnant after 15 years disappointments and are looking forward to holding your first child around New Years! Ding, ding, ding... Ladies and gentlemen, we have a winner!!! Congratulations, I'm so happy for you!!!! 1 Sherry Rice reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KalelsWifey 318 Posted July 1, 2015 When you finally get pregnant after 15 years disappointments and are looking forward to holding your first child around New Years! Congratulations!!! Such exciting news!!! 1 Sherry Rice reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
huynhston 24 Posted July 3, 2015 When colleagues feel comfortable enough to confess how they thought your weight was "absolutely disgusting" before you started losing weight lol Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KalelsWifey 318 Posted July 4, 2015 When you aren't afraid to see the size of your shadow... And then you have to think, 'wait was that me' ?! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
diana89131 258 Posted July 4, 2015 When your childhood friends you haven't seen in years don't recognize you. Or when your husband's cousins think he is having an affair with another woman, and it's really you they didn't recognize, lol 267 vs 144 1 Sherry Rice reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
snowkitten 371 Posted July 5, 2015 While joking around with your brother you say "shush, I'm gonna kick u in the head" and he says "go for it" (thinking there's no way in the world u could get ur leg up that high).... so you do.... and easily!!! Hahaha, look on his face was priceless 2 Sherry Rice and njgal reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shannalynne 98 Posted July 8, 2015 People don't recognize you.... 1 Sherry Rice reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BackSpin81 350 Posted July 8, 2015 When your grandmother tells you, "you're so beautiful now!" Am I supposed to take that as a compliment?My aunt said the same mess on the 4th. To add insult to injury, she also added, "Now you can find a husband." WTF?! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thbrown223 214 Posted July 8, 2015 When you finally get pregnant after 15 years disappointments and are looking forward to holding your first child around New Years! Congratulations! Mommyhood is one THE best things in this entire world. Please enjoy every single second, it goes by so very quickly. ???? 1 Sherry Rice reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rhodes 66 Posted July 9, 2015 You can go to the beach without filling out an environmental impact study...... 3 Sherry Rice, blue1961 and njgal reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rogofulm 2,440 Posted July 9, 2015 ... the very same people who've been nagging you to lose weight your whole life, start nagging you to GAIN weight. WTF?!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Rhodes 66 Posted July 9, 2015 "being naked" are no longer curse words...... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites