Telling your children?

[DallasMomofTwins 31]

I have 4 year old twins and i am not sure what to tell them about my surgery and my difference in eating..they are both very inquisitive and will definately notice! Any suggestions? Thanks!

[MeMeMEEE 206]

4 is very young. You can always say mommy had surgery on her tummy to help her eat healthier/better. I probably wouldn't go in to much detail.

[M2G 1,836]

Since they are 4 I would definitely keep it short and simple.

"Mommy is having surgery on her tummy. The new tummy will be small, and I won't be able to eat very much for a while. Mommy isn't sick, or hurt, but this surgery will improve my health. I might feel tired after the surgery for about a week or so but then I will be feeling better and back to playing with you like normal."

We talked to our girls about the weight loss aspect of it simply because they were older. (like 8 & 10 at the time, plus mommy & daddy had sugery...not at the same time but we are both sleeved) so they understand what it was about. It was still a bit scary for them and they had a lot of questions. I didn't tell them about surgery until about a month before my actual surgery date, I didn't need them worrying for 6 months about what was coming. We also covered the privacy issue, that this was something that we were doing but that we didn't necessarily want them to talk about it with the whole world. They did pretty good, and of course now that we have lost almost 130lbs between the both of us, they say things like "we can hug all the way around you" and little stuff that is encouraging.

But for the most part I would keep it short and simple and just answer their questions as the come up.