Stop bringing food to my house!

[LindaS 316]

I'm on the pre-op diet.

Monday night, my mother-in-law brought her leftover pizza to my house. I didn't know until Tuesday when I opened my fridge and ended up with a big whiff of it. I made my kids eat it.

Tuesday, my mother-in-law brought over cucumber salad made with vinegar and another made with sour cream.

Wednesday she was out of town.

Thursday, she brought fudge. (Mackinac Island fudge). She didn't just hand over the box. She opened the box and cut it all up and put it on a plate. She's at my house. I was at the table eating my salad with chicken in it.

I don't like fudge, so I wasn't tempted. The cucumber thing, she does do every year when she gets a bunch of cucumbers in her garden. I actually can still eat the vinegar salad ones.

She doesn't normally bring over food and to bring over this much at a time when she knew I couldn't eat it....

I think she is being rude, but my husband doesn't think so. It is NOT normal for her to be at my house this much, and it is even more unusual for her to keep bringing food. I think she may be doing it to be passive aggressive. Of course, there is no way I can prove that. LOL!

[longer-life 139]

Wow, I don't know her of course, but I think you have all the proof you need! You need to speak up. Firm but politely of course.

[pattimomof3nj 21]

Oh so you've got on of those too! My MIL brought some good ol' KFC to my house the day i got my lap band! Wasn't that just so sweet of her!! I mean my husband and kids need to eat, but my kids were 5 and the girls were 1 1/2 maybe at the time! And she brought over like 2 buckets of chicken and about 10 large sides! Hoe freaking sweet to have that smell in your house after you just had surgery and can only drink freaking water!!!! Not that I was hungry or anything, but really!!!

[italianlady13 80]

SABBATOGE (sp?)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My husband's best friend brough chocolates to the hopsital after I had my sleeve. Wow thanks guys! I can't eat them but surely I will look at them and cry. My husband hid them until the last day I was in the hospital and then donated them to the nursing staff...................

[thinoneday 445]

gotta love the mother in law. . . she is definately trying you. . . be stronger then the food. . . show her exactly how strong you really are. . . ugh gotta love em . . .

[Jensharley 9]

Just a thought here but could she be thinking since you aren't able to eat you might not be cooking and the food and treats were for the family? She could be thinking she is helping you. If that is the case maybe explain that the food gifts are great and everyone appreciates them but maybe she can keep them at her house and they can come over to eat them.

[Raine 170]

I agree with you passive aggressive. Nothing you can really do its his mother. Be the better person and let her be who she is, but tell your husband about it. My family has a rule to keep the peace. If anyone of us has a problem with the outlaws we go to the sibling and let them handle it. She reminds me of "Raymonds" mother LOL.

[nowatgoal 77]

I was wondering the same thing as Jensharley - could she be thinking that since you are "dieting" you aren't cooking and she's trying to help out? But, you know her so if you're seeing passive aggressive it also fits. Your best revenge is to not let her know she's getting to you. Smile and say thank you and then throw it away after she's gone if you have to. Good luck!

[LindaS 316]

Sara and Jen, you two are way too nice! She brought fudge!

Actually, I think it was just a weird coincidence that had her bringing everything over. It was just making me frustrated at the time. After she brought the fudge, my husband told me I'd been rude because I didn't socialize with our company (his parents).

She may be considering WLS herself. I think she is waiting to see how I do.

[Raine 170]

Linda, I just had an "AHAAA" moment when reading your last post. If she is considering WLS, then she is probably testing you. Testing to see if you can withstand the temptations that go along with everyday. Maybe she figures if you can then maybe she can too.

[Driver Deb 10]

I am not sure if she is passive aggressive or if you are sensitive... As a MIL myself, I would be thinking that your husband and kids are "suffering" the same high Protein low carbs that you keep in the house and she may be doing it to help the ones out who are not dieting. As a person on this journey too, I know that this whole process becomes somewhat of an obsession and we need to remember that there are others in our lives who are not on this journey with us.

Be strong. See it as a challenge to overcome because these kinds of temptations will be around for the rest of your life.

[Infernored 5]

I LOL'd at this title. I bumped heads alot with my MIL so I get it. How about the response before she leaves, " take this home with you, none of us will eat it otherwise it will end up in the trash".

[Forensikchic 528]

Thank goodness my MIL is 1600 miles away! AND... she doesnt know about my surgery. Only my parents and sister know. They live away too so I dont have to worry about that. My mother calls every night to ask what I had for dinner and tells me in detail what they had.... it sucks but she has always done that so I just blow it off. Its such a habit with her. Its funny how you realize the way you were raised was "hey, what yall having for dinner?" Everything revolves around food. Well, thats not going to be the case for me anymore. Im only a week out and on liquids so I dont need to think that way anymore. Good luck to all of you with sabboteurs in your lives. I hope It doesnt get to be too much. Tammi

[Tony666 0]

Being a guy, it's much easier to just say GTF out, stop with the games. I've had to do it to guys at work, they think they're testing me in my last 2 weeks.