Frustrated -2 weeks before surgery

[Kimberlina 18]

I went to my final pre op appointments, paid A LOT of money for surgeon fee's and dietician fee's.... and then got reemed out by my Dr. for not doing something that I was never told to do. Now every time that I talk to their office it seems as if they all think I am already a failure.

This is the WORST thing I could be experiencing 2 weeks before surgery. Thrown into a deep depression because I feel like a failure and I haven't even had the surgery yet.

I thought getting my surgery date and the weeks following would be the happiest time of my life, and now instead I feel like I am fighting against my Dr's office just to make them believe that I am trying to jump through every hoop that they put in front of me.

Any suggestions on how to deal with this? I already have thoughts in my head about how I am going to be the first person I have ever heard of that the surgery won't do anything for.... etc.... I don't need them putting more doubts, insecurity, and anxiety into me before hand.

What do I do to get my motivation and positivity back???

[wondering1 103]

Kimberlina,

What did they not tell you to do? Something easy to reconcile or not? If it was something like your pre-op diet or a test just get it done. Your doctor's office is making a great deal of money off of you so there is no reason for them to treat you horribly. Let me know how things turn out.

[SeattleSue 25]

I'm sorry you feel this way. It's emotionally exhausting to feel like everyone has you under their emotional thumb... I use to try to please everyone and it burned me out.

You are not a failure. You know you weren't given an instruction, right? So how can you carry the burden of someone elses mistake? How can you let THEM make YOU feel like a failure?

I don't think your Dr. thought you were perfect and now, because of this he has suddenly discovered you are not. If it's a deal breaker issue...you've got nothing to lose and need to find your voice. If it's a wedge between you, again...you need to bring it up and tell him how you feel. If it's not that big of a deal as far as safety, surgery, and follow-up go...then I think you need to have the grace to be kind to yourself and let this one go. Scrape your shoe and move on; because it's not worth the effort you could be spending on getting ready for pre-op and recovery.

Don't let the things out of your control, have control. Focus on what you need to do, should do, want to do...

Best of luck