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Not sure how I feel about this. I realize there could be many variables leading me to this conclusion:

1. I could feel a little more confident and exude it

2. I am not wearing the same baggy clothing I was donning before.

3. I am actually a cute girl, maybe there's something to it.

But anyone else notice a difference in the way people started treating them when they started loosing?

Save humanity.

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Oh yes, I get treated so differently even by family. I know that they loved me but it's like how anmals and people in general tend to shy away from creatures who are dying and we were. If someone was sad and unhappy and it showed externally, like it does with us fat people, then you would find those people excluded more often. Since our major reason for being live is to reproduce I think a lot of the Men folk have it ingrained in their head to try to lure the women who would give them the best offspring which is not someone who is obese. I am just happy being on the other side and I always make it a point to be extra nice to those struggling with weight issues.

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Yup. I'm being waited on faster, being asked if I need assistance (when I was practically invisible 80lbs ago) and just today at the children's museum the guy didn't charge me for the 2 extra kids I brought along though our membership clearly states 2 children & all extras are supposed to be $10/each. More attention and saving money? Jackpot!

Sometimes I get really irked at the change - I'm still the same person just in a smaller, better dressed package - but mostly I just chalk it up to human nature & move on.

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It's called social attractiveness theory...a sociological phenomena. It's sucks...but it's a reality.

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Yup it does and is. I try not to do that to people as a standard. But I notice it more and more, men are nicer, smile and in general are more polite to me now then when I was heavier. Customer service people especially, and you would think that they would be nice to evreyone especially since its their job. Its all good though, as long as I don't do that maybe it'll rub off on others. I can only be accountable for me. :)

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This is an interesting thread... I've rarely, if ever, felt slighted in public, but I am always smiling at people myself and am a pretty confident woman. Heck, I even flirt now and then if it will get me what I want. So, I haven't really noticed or perhaps I will when I lose some more weight... LOL. We'll see!

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