What to tell kids?

[eliza 0]

I am a stay home mom of 3 toddlers ages 5, 3 1/2, 2 1/2. Any ideas that could help me explain to them my 5 day disappearing. My concern is my middle one since he always requests mommy cuddles, even after daddy reads bedtime story.

[sarsar 824]

My children are ages 20, 11 and 8. I told my 20 year old about my surgery right away after I decided to go. I told the 2 younger ones that I was going on a trip with grandma (my mom came with me while my husband stayed home to take care of the kids and work). I didn't want to tell them I was having surgery bf I left bc I knew they would worry, especially my 8 year old. He is just that way and I couldn't be concerned about that while I was gone having surgery. It was already hard enough to leave them without the stress of knowing they would be worried about me. Mine are a little older but they did fine. They missed me but my husband kept them busy. I explained to them a little about my surgery when I got back.

Your kids are young enough that they probably won't even understand what being gone for 5 days means. I know it is hard but they will be ok. Just remember that you are doing something that is going to make your relationship with them everything you have been wanting it to be for so long! You are going to be healthy and those 5 days will go so fast, both for you and for them!

[eliza 0]

Thank you for sharing... I think I am being a worry wort and may be having a separation anxiety. You are right. My relationship with them will be stronger. Needless to say, I will be able to run after them during play time!!

[sarsar 824]

Thank you for sharing... I think I am being a worry wort and may be having a separation anxiety. You are right. My relationship with them will be stronger. Needless to say, I will be able to run after them during play time!!

I know just how you feel! It was so hard for me to leave my kids, actually, it was the hardest part for me. I do everything for my family, I put them first and take care of them. It was hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that I was leaving and doing something for me and feeling ok with that decision. Deep down inside I knew I had to do it and I am so happy I did! I posted on the board about my concerns and had so much support from certain people!

It's only been 7 weeks but the weight loss has already made such a difference. This summer I am able to do so much more with my boys! We are busy all the time, I have energy and I am happy. Seven weeks later and being gone for surgery is old news around here!

You can do this and you will do great! Hang in there.:hug: