Need answers/reassurance

KauaiLulu · July 3, 2011

I posted this on OH as well but looking for comments/answers:

I know I am obsessive about reading posts and "getting prepared" and now that I have a surgery date - I am actually getting a bit freaked out. I did NOT think this would happen. I am ready for the major changes, the adjustments to my life and all of that but just now at this moment (as I am drinking my third glass of sauvignon blanc) I am getting just the teensy-est bit WIGGED OUT.

I have a six year old (I am 46) and I am curious if any of you wrote letters to your kids or loved ones before surgery? I honestly do not think anything is going to go wrong and have given it up to my "higher power" that I will get through the surgery without a hitch BUT am feeling conflicted with the choice of writing a note to my lovely daughter 'just in case.'

Any words from post-ops would be greatly appreciated.

Mahalo,

Lulu

keepaloozen · July 3, 2011

Hi There,

If you weren't freaking out, I would think that there is something wrong with you. We all freaked out. After all, you are having surgery, and then afterwards, your relationship with food will forever be changed. THAT IS A GOOD THING. I am a little over 2 most post op, and I am so glad I had this done. If you wish, write the letter. Of course, you will tear it up when you get back home and know that you are doing fine, but for the time being, if that helps, do it. Good luck. By the way, I enjoyed a nice glass of wine today as well.

lovin life · July 3, 2011

Congrats on your surgery date! The sleeve has been such an exciting journey...I love it!!! To answer your question yes i did write letters to my kids and husband. I had been writing down memories for them about how their dad and i met, how my pregnancy to each of them went, and memories of our family or silly little quotes they made and planned on making a journal of them for when they were older, but after i had a surgery date (which went rather quickly because i was self-pay) I finished writing those memories down, and finished with a "what you mean to me letter" to each of them and my husband ...it was very emotianal and heartwrenching for me to write these letters, but so glad i did...funny thing is i was not nervous or scared of the things that could have went wrong with surgery, but still felt it was something I had to do, I gave them to a friend of mine to distribute if need be, i picked them up 3 days later when i saw her when i went back to work. For me i am the type of person that likes to make sure I have all my bases covered, this just helped me feel like i had taken care of business..."just in case", now i have these done and can continue recording our lives together so i can finish up those journals for them