Snarl...growl...

decamom · June 30, 2011

I am usually a fairly happy, easy to get along with person. I am 8 weeks out and driving my husband NUTS! He can't do anything right. I always seem to be irritated with him. I know this is common. I am just wondering how long it lasts. Will our relationship outlast it??? UGH!

ezlsm · July 12, 2011

My wife says the same thing about me. I don't see it, but her and the kids say that I'm always snappy. I asked the doc and he says that it is not common in his practice. He suggested doubling the exercise. (that way, I'll be too tired to fuss, lol).

fern · July 12, 2011

My hubby and I came up with a code word ( daffadils) that he can say to me if I'm going off the deep end. I made a true and true promise that I would walk away at that point and talk about it later when I've "cooled" off. Works great! I've even used it on him a couple times : )

But you HAVE to male a promise to yourself to actually walk away. Doesn't work if it just pisses you off more ; )

wendy1974 · July 12, 2011

That is a really good idea Fern! I'm going to talk about that with my hubby when he gets home from work. I'm constantly on him & the kids lately, sometimes I know I go overboard slightly, but my goodness..... I just can't seem to help myself! :blink: I'm only a week out from surgery, so I'm not sure if it is the pain in my left side still, or hormones, or whatever... but I also tend to swear more when I'm in pain and in a bad mood... I've dropped more 'f' bombs in the last week than I have in the last 30 years! :huh: I gotta try something soon.... I hope your suggestion will work for us ;0)

Thanks again!

fern · July 13, 2011

It works great for us. But remember, you NEED to take a breathe and walk away if he says your "code word". Think of it as an off switch. You'll still be pissed, but it'll remind you to go be pissed somewhere by yourself. It won't work otherwise.

Empty_Nest2001 · July 13, 2011

What you're describing is how I felt before I went an anti-depressant a few years ago. I just wanted to KILL somebody!! My husband, especially, couldn't do anything right! Once I went on a mild anti-depressant, it all evened out! My husband calls it my "happy" pill and he makes sure I don't run out of it!