Thirtysomething women, no kids?

[picardy3 0]

TexasRose,

I feel much the same way that you do. I'm 37, single, no kids, and not dating anyone at the moment. I've always struggled with my weight and now that I'm losing, I think "What happens if I meet someone and decide to have a child?" I have a feeling that plastic surgery is somewhere in my future, so I don't know if that will change the way I feel about things.

I teach, so I'm around kids all the time and I've three nephews and a neice, so my mom has grandkids and doesn't pressure me.

At the moment, I'm happy with life and my three cats and working on my master's.

Audra

[Wheetsin 714]

Liz - never think you have to settle for one or the other. I'm happily married, starting my PhD next year, and well-established in a professional career. I will plug along until pregnancy comes (at least another year away), then work as much school in as I can. Work will always be there. I love what I do, and make more than DH, so if either of us stays home it'll be him. He loves what he does too, but could make more money doing it as a freelance contractor anyway. And I can work from home. :confused:

[lookingout 0]

I'm going to be 29 in a month (I relate with older people better, probably because I feel like I'm in my 40's), and have a serious fear of commitment. After a year, I just freak out. I can't do it anymore. I've met someone the past 6 months that is almost the male version of me, and to deal with someone who has the exact same hangups as me is not good. I'm not crazy but I am eccentric, and a hard worker, and a hard player. I do want to have kids someday, and realize the band is something that you can have kids successfully someday. I worry (especially lately, as all of my friends are getting married in the next 18 months or so) that I've missed the boat. I want to go back for my masters degree, and secretly I hope I'll meet someone in the school atmosphere. I have a really hard time not finding creeps, and I'm not a bar chick, those never seem productive. Sigh!

[Sunta 5]

I'm 36 and I have no kids (THANK GOD!!!). I feel that children really ruin relationships and lives. I thank my lucky stars every day that I have total freedom to live life on MY terms and do what I want to do every moment without being enslaved to a child. I've been married for nine years and I love every single solitary second of my gloriously child-free existance!!!

[PinkMary 3]

34 no kids :confused:

[lizzilo 0]

Wheetsin,

Most of the guys I meet are already married though! I can't find one that's not just a total loser that's not. :confused:

[housecatgirl 0]

I have a 14 yr. old but lately he is so independent I feel like a 34 yr old with no kids.

[Wheetsin 714]

Most of the guys I meet are already married though!

Well... umm... are they happily married? :confused:

You know, if I weren't already married, I have NO IDEA where I'd go to meet guys. No clue. DH and I kind of just ran into each other... and good thing, b/c I'm really bad at meeting people. I definitely can empathize.

[DonnaMarie 0]

I am 32 with no children. I was in a LTR and had 2 miscarriages cuz I have polycystic ovarian syndrome. Hard time ovulation and making the egg "stick" .. Now I am single and would love children someday. So banding will help me with that I am sure so I am blessed to have had the surgery.. In fact, just had it 2 days ago!

DonnaMarie

[dolphin_dreams 0]

I'm 37 and single with no children.

[Josette 2]

I met my husband on yahoo personals. We got married 5 months later. Met in Mid July and got married Dec. 18, 2004. hahaha. YES we are crazy but it's been 2 years since we met and we haven't killed each other yet. I do agree though. It's very hard to meet people!

[Texas Princess 0]

I am 31, single, no kids. Some days I want kids and some days I don't. Who knows how I will feel when I reach my weight loss goal. :confused:

[sleepyjean 0]

I'm 36 and I have no kids (THANK GOD!!!). I feel that children really ruin relationships and lives. I thank my lucky stars every day that I have total freedom to live life on MY terms and do what I want to do every moment without being enslaved to a child. I've been married for nine years and I love every single solitary second of my gloriously child-free existance!!!

In my opinion, parenting is just like everything in life: some people are into it and some people aren’t. I’m 31, child-free and plan to stay that way. I’ve known since the age of seven that children are not part of my life plan.

For those of us who don’t want children, it can seem like children ruin relationships and lives, and it likely would – for us. But I think for people who DO have the desire or urge to be fruitful and multiply, children bring a special dimension to their lives that people like me will never relate to or understand. I’m an independent career girl. I do what I want, when I want. My sister is a stay at home mother of three. I would never want to live her life and she would never want to live mine.

[JulieNYC 4]

I'm 33, single, no kids, and thought I was the only one! I'm not sure if I want to have kids or not, but I definitely want to get married (particularly if I can convince him to live next door -- just joking). I figure it'll be easier to untangle all that with some of the weight gone.

Anyway, good to meet you all and know there are others like me.

Take care,

[giblert 0]

I just turned 38 a few days ago and am childless by choice. Have been with my husband for 7-8 years (I forget) and married since last Fall. He's getting snipped next week :-)