Need some good come back tips for the neg. people

[ccbcdeke 11]

How about..."next time I need a little discouraging word, I'll know to come to you." don't forget to roll your eyes like that too...lol

[Aarik 2]

I told people the people who were negative about my surgery that my Knees gave me permission to do it. My knees said anyway you can get this weight off of us is alright with me. I also have to learn to be okay with myself though, regardless of how big or small I am. I am setting myself up for failure if I am looking for others approval.

[MeMeMEEE 206]

I will tell people that I had VSG - honestly, if knowing I did it helps just one person, that is a good thing. Hiding it is why there is such a stigma. Now after saying that, I won't tell them unless they ask how I am losing - then I will explain it all - the diet and surgery.

[Redheadedone 3]

How did you lose 55 pounds pre-op? That alone is amazing!

[k8bwalsh 1]

Read this looking for some good tips, myself. I told many people about it. However there were a couple of negative friends that I purposely withheld the information from. Will see if it slips out anytime soon. Hoping to get some compliments down the road from them and tell them I'm eating right & exercising (which is true!!) If I can avoid telling them at all costs, fantastic! If they find out, so be it. I am not looking for their approval anyway. But even after 60 pounds, not a word out of them, so not sure why I'm classifying them as friends anyway....

Anyway - *most* people are supportive, and the ones that are not are mostly telling me all about so-and-so who had it done and gained it all back and then some, and looks worse now than ever...blah, blah, blah. I usually hold up my hand and say, "I don't want to hear it." Some super-rude people, however, persist on telling you all about it. They are NOT my friends and I do not confide in them anymore!!! Also, I've had one stranger insist that I should be taking a holistic approach, and she used to have a big stomach, blah, blah, blah. I walked away. But, like I said before, the thing that gets me the most is when they want to tell me about so-and-so who looks horrible and gained it all back after their surgery.

Most people also think I'm not losing as quickly as I should. This is not DS or gastric by-pass. This is a slower process and eating right and exercising factor in or it's not going to work. I think people are talking behind my back at work saying I wasted my time, but really, 60 pounds in 5 months? More than they did, b-otches!! lol!! And at least I'm heading in the right direction, unlike them who gained over the past 5 months and are still gaining. (Of course I don't say this to their faces.)

Good luck! So bottom line is I just say, "I don't want to hear it" and *most* people respect that.

[decamom 31]

Read this looking for some good tips, myself. I told many people about it. However there were a couple of negative friends that I purposely withheld the information from. Will see if it slips out anytime soon. Hoping to get some compliments down the road from them and tell them I'm eating right & exercising (which is true!!) If I can avoid telling them at all costs, fantastic! If they find out, so be it. I am not looking for their approval anyway. But even after 60 pounds, not a word out of them, so not sure why I'm classifying them as friends anyway....

Anyway - *most* people are supportive, and the ones that are not are mostly telling me all about so-and-so who had it done and gained it all back and then some, and looks worse now than ever...blah, blah, blah. I usually hold up my hand and say, "I don't want to hear it." Some super-rude people, however, persist on telling you all about it. They are NOT my friends and I do not confide in them anymore!!! Also, I've had one stranger insist that I should be taking a holistic approach, and she used to have a big stomach, blah, blah, blah. I walked away. But, like I said before, the thing that gets me the most is when they want to tell me about so-and-so who looks horrible and gained it all back after their surgery.

Most people also think I'm not losing as quickly as I should. This is not DS or gastric by-pass. This is a slower process and eating right and exercising factor in or it's not going to work. I think people are talking behind my back at work saying I wasted my time, but really, 60 pounds in 5 months? More than they did, b-otches!! lol!! And at least I'm heading in the right direction, unlike them who gained over the past 5 months and are still gaining. (Of course I don't say this to their faces.)

Good luck! So bottom line is I just say, "I don't want to hear it" and *most* people respect that.

60 lbs in 5 months!!?? You are AMAZING!!! Maybe they don't comment because they are afraid to admit that it was a good idea for you..... You are doing great! Hooray for you!