What to say?!?

Rachel140 · June 24, 2011

Hello for the first time!!

I'm totally pumped to be sleeved in just two weeks! Everything is in order and ready to go- exept for letting my friends and family in on what I'm doing with the exception of my husband and mother. I'm just not sure what to say! I'm 200 and 5'6", to them I look ok. I feel MUCH different. Any advice?

kellyw74 · June 24, 2011

To tell or not?? That is a very personal choice. I personally did not tell a soul but my husband and still have not!

I don't think it is anyone's business and I didn't want to hear all the negative comments and have my loved ones try to convince me not to do it. I knew what I wanted to do and that it was the right thing for me. I didn't need anyone to tell me otherwise!

I may one day tell my mom, but for now, I am on a low carb, high Protein diet with exercise. That is the truth and I lost 55lbs pre-op, so nobody really suspects too much!

Good luck in whatever decision you make!

Kelly

Rachel140 · June 24, 2011

Thanks Kelly, you advice is great!

carrierae · June 24, 2011

I am going with the traditional I have a "hiatal hernia" bit. That covers why I have to do the pre op diet, go take all these tests, have surgery and my tummy will hurt recovering. It also explains away the odd diet after for at least a couple months. I can say "Wow, this hernia was great...i wish I had one earlier so I could have lost this much weight" blah blah blah. After a couple months I figure if they get suspicious I can say "after the hernia surgery I lost so much weight, i am not hungry and am making sure I get my nutrition in so I am going to stick with this diet until I change my mind".

I used this for work and am going to for everyone. I dont want anyones opinions good or bad. This for me is very personal and my baggage. My hubby and one coworker know...that is it. Not even my mom or mother in law (who is at my house everyday but that is a different story).

Bottom line do what you need to do. If you need the support and feel they will give it then share. I dont feel I need the support from anyone but my husband and them knowing will only add to the embarassment I have for l getting this fat.