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I'm starting my new job August 2nd. HR called me this morning and wants me to come in for paperwork. Of course she wanted to make the appt. for 9 a.m Thursday SURGERY DAY. I told her I couldn't come that day because I was having a procedure done. She then says "If you don't mind me asking, what kind of surgery are you going to have." I was so taken aback that she asked that, especially with her being in HR. I blurted out "hernia repair". I'm betting during the VSG surgery I'll have a hernia repaired so I guess thats why I said it.

I feel bad. I didn't want to tell them I'm having WLS...simply because its none of their business. I should of kept my mouth shut from the beginning, but I didn't know what to tell a new employer about why I couldn't come the day they needed me to for ppw. UGH. So I'm here confessing it to y'all.

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Don't let it bother you! I agree with you, the HR lady shouldn't have asked. :P

I'm starting my new job August 2nd. HR called me this morning and wants me to come in for paperwork. Of course she wanted to make the appt. for 9 a.m Thursday SURGERY DAY. I told her I couldn't come that day because I was having a procedure done. She then says "If you don't mind me asking, what kind of surgery are you going to have." I was so taken aback that she asked that, especially with her being in HR. I blurted out "hernia repair". I'm betting during the VSG surgery I'll have a hernia repaired so I guess thats why I said it.

I feel bad. I didn't want to tell them I'm having WLS...simply because its none of their business. I should of kept my mouth shut from the beginning, but I didn't know what to tell a new employer about why I couldn't come the day they needed me to for ppw. UGH. So I'm here confessing it to y'all.

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Hey, don't worry about it. You are right, she shouldn't have asked to begin with. If I'm right, it's even illegal to ask that. But the hernia story is perfectly ok. As you said, you just might have it, too. And your recovery will be about the same, so no one will be the wiser. Ticks me off that she even asked you that.

Hey, if they have the nerve to ask about your weight loss after the fact, you can just say, well while they were in there fixing the hernia, they noticed my stomach was enlarged and decided to remove 85% of it. Lol that will catch them off guardbiggrin.gif

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I think in this case two wrongs did make a right. HR should know better to NOT ask you and you may also get a hernia repair. Nobodys business what is going on with you.

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I told my job ulcer surgery. They still don't know and it's none of their damn buisness!

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i told my work the same thing!! LOL

they all think that is what i had done. isn't anyone's business what you are having done and especially someone you don't even know!! the nerve of some people! dang.

Kelly :angry:

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I also told most of my work colleagues that I was having surgery to repair a hernia (which was true). I had been having severe stomach issues related to the hernia in the weeks prior to surgery (TMI Alert - I was leaving meetings to vomit) so this explanation was readily accepted. Only a few people (including my direct supervisor) knew about the WLS. Since I have lost a considerable amount of weight some people might have put the two things together by now. Who knows!

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They have absolutely no right to ask - legally or ethically! Next time someone is being nosy, tell them something completely insane like you are having a 3rd nipple removed, that should shut them up.:P

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It wasn't even legal for her to ask that. You didn't break the law, so you shouldn't be the one feeling guilty. White lies are a part of life. :)

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