Suddenly Single... now what?

[Valentina 2,642]

What now? Now you put one foot in front of the other and move FORWARD. --and REMEMBER TO BREATH. That's right. Sometimes we all just need to stop and concentrate on taking THE NEXT BREATH and nothing else.

I have been exactly where you are and it sucks!! My daughter also went through a heart break last year. What I said to her first was, "I love you". Then I asked her,"what will you do when "the" call comes"? "You know--when "he" calls". You know it will. It did. She is now very, very happy with---someone else.

This is a fork in the road for you. You are made of stern stuff or you would never have thought of being sleeved. If you need a bit of time, take it, but not too much. You have a wonderful life in front of you. Open your mind and embrace it! Keep busy--very busy.

Keep this in mind as I have tried to do: TO THY OWN SELF BE TRUE. If you can do that, everything will be as it should. I promise.

Valentina

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

You are going to be thin and wearing really cute clothes before very long. You're going to have a whole new life.

Just take one day at a time and remember when God closes a door, he opens a window. You're going to have a big huge window of opportunity

opening up to you now!

[breezy 8]

I have been single for a good portion of my life. If you need a special buddy to help you, just private write me. I'd be glad to support you.

[MRSKOUBiK 27]

I'm sorry you have to go through this. But like it was said a lot above everything does happen for a reason. Hang in there. If surgery is what you want, then go for it.

[KellyL 173]

I'm so sorry you are going through this, I know it's really difficult. You are gonna just have to do YOU girl! Take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. The rest will all fall into place. Distract yourself with activities, get out and enjoy life. Focus on you and your health. This forum is wonderful, and we're all here for you! I hope you continue on your WLS journey, because you deserve to be healthy and happy. If he chooses not to be a part of it, then so be it. You're gonna be fine and do great!

[Makingchanges 51]

Hi Rachel,

I am sorry to hear about what you’re going through but I just want you to know. You don't need a man to validate you. You need to love yourself enough to do what's right for you, so that when God send your true love, you'll know how you want to be love.

I agree that everyone that has comment has a point. I am new here I haven't been sleeved yet, but I’m going through the process and I'm a single parent I was married for 11yrs and the truth is I didn't really find myself until long after the divorce. What I know today is you don't need a man to make you complete God completed you when He created you.

And know this God loves you and so do I with the love of Christ.

I am here for you; you can just email me private if you need someone to talk with or whatever.

Gina

[wishes 125]

You can do this. I know you are going through a rough time right now, but you will find your way. Do not give up a healthier you. I am so sorry this happened to you now, but everyone here will support you through this if the surgery is what you want. Do not give up hope.

[iegal 460]

Rachel;

I am so very sorry about your relationship ending now, just before you are having surgery. You have had a couple of big changes in your life and now you are heading for another. Probably really hard to be assured that things are going to get better, but they will. Counseling really can help to make sure you are ready for this next step. You don't want to head into VSG with doubts of why you did this and if it is worth it.

We are all here for you and cheering you on. Doing what is best for you, best for your health, best for for future can only be considered a good decision. If you boyfriend could not understand this, then you can do this alone. Hugs.

[SouthernSleever 228]

Hi All,

My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me a few days ago. We relocated to a new city together about 9 months ago so I don't have any friends here and am farther from my family. The relationship was very serious and headed towards marriage, and now I find myself so lost. I know this surgery is for me, and I still need to go through with it and get healthy and all that, but I have just lost the one person who has truly been there for me in a way that no one else ever could. I have other people to be there for me, but it's just not the same. I'm losing my courage. I'm terrified of dating with loose skin. I'll be living alone during the emotional roller coaster of recovery and I'm terrified of that too. I feel like I have just lost everything. I need help, encouragement. Maybe the singles out there could give me a pep talk?

Thanks,

Rachel

((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))) You can do this! You are strong and once you do this on your own you will be even stronger. Once you are thin and single you will be so grateful I know it doesn't seem like it now but trust me.

[dramagirl28 22]

Thank you all for the support. It has really helped me keep my chin up this week. I do want to go through with it. I have been working on this for a long time and I know it's the best thing for me. The sleeve will allow me to have a new life in so many ways. It's nice to know I have all of you to lean on. Thank you so much!

[doggz109 41]

Dude is going to be JEALOUS as hell if he sees you in about a year....probably looking hot as hell with a new guy by your side.

You can do this!

[mina 27]

hey girl, you can do this. take it one day at a time. I'm single, just move to a new town far from family. i'm walking this journey alone (i know God is with me). like everyone said take this time to focus on you.. don't worry about future dating right now. concentrate on a healthier you.