lack of emotional support

SJB · July 16, 2006

I agree with the majority - you were too sensitive. And in regard to folks on special diets eating beforehand if they are unsure of what is being served---any hostess who gets offended is also hypersensitive. For many people, eating the wrong food can be life threatening--not simply a matter of tastes. And like Stitchy mentioned, many people who THINK they know about what is allowed on a guests special diet don't have a clue. They mean well but don't understand. Just enjoy the company and don't focus so much on the food. That's what got us in this shape to start with!

jqpublic · July 16, 2006

They no you are "banded" but probley don't realize or under stand your phase's like we do.liquid mushie's solid stage's. give them another chance.

I,always eat a salad or some fruit, or fill up on Water just in case I don't like what there having (hehe) and then I no I,have ate already and I need to eat a small portion size if I eat there.

this may sound rude" but it's not ment to. I some time's bring my own food over and with them then I no Im eatting healthy,because it a life style change for me. take care good luck with your band.

Woodys · July 16, 2006

Jack: I couldn't have said it better myself, both of your responses are right on....its amazing, how even after the fact, we still find a way to blame others for the cause and life of our problems.

Carol

burnsun · July 16, 2006

I have a son with special needs and diabetes. I always make sure I bring something for him to eat and or drink just in case there is nothing being served he can eat. I do not let him have sf sodas (except clear or the lemonaide- most restaurants only carry diet coke/pepsi as well as most of the parties we attend for his little chums (or no diet stuff all together)and he occasionaly wants something other than Water.

I think nothing of it and really hope I have never offended any host.

FunnyDuddies · July 16, 2006

We went to a birthday party for my brother in law and his son yeasterday. Everyone had this spectacular spaghetti, and yummy ice cream and cake for dessert.

I had with me a cube for chicken broth and a pudding cup in the car. I knew we were going to be eating. And I knew that they probably had no clue as to what I could have and couldn't have. And I didn't want to be unprepared. It is MY responsibility to take care of my dietary needs, and I should not rely on, or look to anyone else for this. Even if I am invited to their home. Turns out my sister in law had made chicken Soup (from scatch) and removed all of the chunks and veggies. She also purchased a small cup of sugar free vanilla ice cream for me for when we came to dessert time. She actually researched what I could eat and made sure that she was prepared. I was floored. I would never expect anyone to do this, and she went out of her way. It was wonderful. But if she hadn't, I would not think less of her in any way at all. You can't expect people to do magical things for you. You must create the magic yourself. You should have requested more Jello, if you were really still that hungry.