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Hello all,

I was banded on 6/22 and had a pretty rough start. However, since a week has gone by, I am feeling much better and my incisions seem to be healing well. Now that I'm feeling more like myself again, my husband has been giving me the "eye" and I know that he wants me as soon as I feel up to it. My questions for all of you is how long did you wait to have sex post-op? My doctor's instructions are to wait three months to do anything "rough", but I'm just talking about having normal sex. :nervous I don't want to take any chance that my port incision will open up, so I'm thinking that I need to wait at least three weeks. Any thoughts?

Thanks in advance,

Linsey

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Interesting question. My surgeon's instructions are that we can resume sex in 3-5 days, or when we feel like it. I'm thinking that I'm not going to feel like it in 3-5 days!

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I had no set date on when I *could*, just when I felt up to it. By day 6 I wanted to - but I waited for 2 weeks and we were just careful. Some positions are better than others - use your imagination and have fun with it, but don't get carried away!! (doctors orders....lol)

Kristin

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Give it up, Linsey...just be careful and no hanging from chandeliers!!

Carrie

7/25/05

Now you tell me.:faint:This is the funniest thing I've read today.

I waited 2 wks and would have waited longer b/c of port pain, but I was getting tired of the whining from my DH. Really, it was more begging than whining and after all the support he gave me and continues to give, I just couldn't say no any longer. :)

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As soon as you're comfortable with it -- anywhere from 3 days to 2 weeks is fine. It's kind of weird the first time because you're very aware of your port.

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My surgeon had no restrictions when it came to resuming sexual activity. He basically said that when I'm ready to go for it.

I do recommend placing your hand firmly over the port incision site while in the missionary position. You'll understand why if you don't. :grouphug:

Have fun!

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