Judgy McJudgerson

[Bandme1 12]

So I have told very few people about my surgery. So far I have been very good about the few that I have told as they have been extremely supportive. My best friend of 10 years has been a size 0 since I've known her. She is all about eating veggies, exercising, all that jazz. I was debating about whether or not I was going to tell her. I decided to kind of introduce the topic of weight loss surgery to her and see how she reacted. So I said "Oh, hey. It is the 6-year anniversary for my mom's weight loss surgery. She lost over 150 pounds and has kept it off for 6 years." My friend just kind of nodded like she didn't care. I said "No opinions on weight loss surgery?" She just rolled her eyes and said "No, not really. It's great that she kept it off because most people aren't motivated enough. They let their bodies get that way in the first place, they're just erasing the slate so they can do it again."

...Yeeeeah.... NOT gonna tell her about my surgery. What a bitch! She has an incredibly fast metabolism. We went on a road trip one year and she ate JUNK the entire trip and when we got home she felt the need to text me and tell me she had LOST 2 pounds on the trip. We sat in a car the whole time eating junk food. HOW did she lose weight?! Yet then she sits there on her skinny butt and judges everyone else. Whatever. This may be one friendship I will be cutting out. I don't need that kind of negativity. It just blew my mind that she has seen how I've struggled with my weight over the years yet she is so callous about it. One time she said "Well, maybe you should just get a gym membership. It's really not that hard to get in a workout routine."

I just hate skinny people who judge and think that everyone has the same metabolism. Whatever. Screw her. I'm doing this for me and if she isn't going to be supportive, then she just doesn't need to know about it.

Just needed to vent and get that out there. Screw her and all those nay-sayers. This is a second chance at having a normal healthy life and I'm jumping at the opportunity.

[sychadelic 10]

Kudos to you. Sometimes we need to trim the fat in our lives too, not just our bodies. I had to end a 25 year friendship because I FINALLY realized that every time I spoke with the person I was stressed out.....not conducive to a healthy life.

Do what you gotta do for you, 'cause nobody else is gonna do it for you. Good luck!

[Saved By The Sleeve 22]

Well I feel you on that decision. I personally did not tell my BF whom is one of the sweetest people you could ever meet, BUT the only thing is that she is extremely close with all of her aunts and they all talk entirely too much if you know what I mean LOL. I knew that sooner or later she would tell one of them and then the whole world "that surrounds me" would know! However, I do think that she would have been really supportive and probably would have decided to have the surgery herself because she is over weight also. I had a BF in the past who was negative and non supportive about anything that went well in MY life. Go figure..........I let that friendship die off thank goodness. What is the point in having a best friend if they aren't going to act like a best friend!

[Nicki8875 1]

I am very lucky to have all supportive people around me. But anyone not supportive would be cut out of my life. Who needs that? You do what is best for you! Good luck. It is GREAT that your mom has maintained for 6 yrs.