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This guy that I have kinda dated on and off for 5 yrs. Haven't seen him in a year or so called the other night wanting to go to dinner. So I went. Keep in mind I have only lost around 30lbs. Most people don't even notice yet. Went to dinner and movie and he was supposed to come over one night this week and watch a movie. He texted me today(he does not know about the surgery) and told me that he really liked me bigger and if I wasn't willing to put the weight back on he didn't think he was interested anymore. I didn't even respond to the text. Can you believe that..Obviously we weren't serious but what a weirdo. I thought he liked me in spite of my weight. Guess it turnes out it was because of my weight. lol

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Talking about Reverse discrimination....did you ever in your wildest dreams think that would happen. :lol:

That dude has some serious issues.....:unsure:

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He texted me today(he does not know about the surgery) and told me that he really liked me bigger and if I wasn't willing to put the weight back on he didn't think he was interested anymore.

WOW! Is he a bigger guy? Maybe he needs a partner in crime to be big with?!?! IMO - No way girl, keep that sexy post op WLS train moving!! Someone should love you for you, thick or thin!! And he should be happy that you are getting healthy :)

Love is out there... good luck

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No he is not a big guy. I mean he's big but not overweight. Got a little beer belly but works out very strong arms and legs. I thought he would be thrilled when he saw I was losing weight. Must be some serious mommie issues. :) I was just at a total loss. Maybe it's low self esteem. He thinks if I'm skinny then when he gets around to calling next time I will be with someone else. However, being overweight has not really hurt me getting men. I guess it's my self confidence I just don't want a serious relationship is the reason I take his calls but not anymore.

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He's either very insecure, or a chubby chaser lol. Or maybe BOTH!! Whatever his damn problem, it's HIS problem!!! How dare he try to control something as serious as your weight, and after 1 date out of the blue at that. I would set him straight. If he leaves, his loss. Congrats on your loss so far!

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LOL!! :lol: Now I've really heard it all!!

Very interesting indeed. Well at least you know now that he's not worth your time anymore, just one more thing to add in thanks to your sleeve!

Someday you will find a great guy who loves you for YOU. :)

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OMG, what a Chubby Chaser for sure!!!! I think it's so funny, "I liked you better heavier... put your weight back on for ME" Seriously, he has some issues! As if you'd actually consider gaining weight for him!! ((psssst)) OMG, I'm still laughing!!! That's so crazy! Good for you though!!

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creepy! consider that a bullet you dodged! wow!

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That's a first! You don't need anyone who only wants you for the way you look!!!

Congrats on the 30lbs, keep up the good work!

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