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Was anyone just super, incredibly nervous from the very beginning? I'm sure everyone experienced nerves at one time or another, but I feel so nervous tonight that I feel weak. Oh! And I just attended the Kaiser orientation, so it's not like I"m even committed! Can't figure out why I feel scared sick. I've had gall bladder surgery and it wasn't so awful, so I'm not sure what's stopping me. If you felt this way, please share. If you went ahead with the surgery, what was the turning point that changed your mind to go through with it? One more thing...do they give you something to relax on the day of the surgery? : )

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I was very scared at first when considering having the sleeve (I was a revision from the lapband). I had no idea what it was until my revision doctor told me about it. I thought ~ What? They are going to cut out 85% of my stomach? That's crazy! Then I started researching more. I found this supportive forum and saw how happy sleevers are. They are successful as well. I knew that I didn't want to live my life morbidly obese anymore. I was tired of not having clothes that fit and feeling horrible about myself. I had tried every diet, excersized like crazy, and had the lapband. They all failed. I just knew the sleeve was the answer for me. It has turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life. You do have to do your part, but the sleeve makes it possible. I could have never had this success or happiness with it. I LOVE my sleeve!

I am not sure if they can give you something the day of surgery. You will have to ask your doctor. They give you some good stuff right before you go into surgery!

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I don't know anyone who wasn't scared. I was able to calm myself by realizing my 3 main fears. 1) I would die in surgery, 2) I would have some sort of serious complication causing extreme burden on me and my family, and 3) I would fail at another weight loss attempt. After so much research I realized that my #1 and #2 fears were not really rational. The likely hood of those things happening were SOOOOOO slim to none, while the likely hood of developing a life threatening disease from the obesity was almost 100% likely. After voiding out those concerns I was able to get through surgery without panic. And yes, they will let you have meds for anxiety prior to surgery and the day of surgery. My 3rd fear I am still working on every day and it is one that will probably stick with me for awhile through this process, but that's ok because it is part of the journey. Good luck to you.

Was anyone just super, incredibly nervous from the very beginning? I'm sure everyone experienced nerves at one time or another, but I feel so nervous tonight that I feel weak. Oh! And I just attended the Kaiser orientation, so it's not like I"m even committed! Can't figure out why I feel scared sick. I've had gall bladder surgery and it wasn't so awful, so I'm not sure what's stopping me. If you felt this way, please share. If you went ahead with the surgery, what was the turning point that changed your mind to go through with it? One more thing...do they give you something to relax on the day of the surgery? : )

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Was anyone just super, incredibly nervous from the very beginning? I'm sure everyone experienced nerves at one time or another, but I feel so nervous tonight that I feel weak. Oh! And I just attended the Kaiser orientation, so it's not like I"m even committed! Can't figure out why I feel scared sick. I've had gall bladder surgery and it wasn't so awful, so I'm not sure what's stopping me. If you felt this way, please share. If you went ahead with the surgery, what was the turning point that changed your mind to go through with it? One more thing...do they give you something to relax on the day of the surgery? : )

Yes, I was very nervous up until the main event! Which I struggled trying to figure out why. After all, I have had 2 c-sections, hysterectomy, apendectomy (sp?), Spinal surgery, and 2 other laparoscopy's. But with being 5'5, 251 lbs, with sleep apnea, fatty liver, newly diagnosed with diabetes and high cholesterol, I had to do something. Not to mention all your reasons as well.

Although, I'm only 14 days out...I am glad I did it. I think with all the past diet failures, it's hard to have faith that this will help. But it can! Just look on these forums and see all the success stories. Granted, it is only a tool. You do have to make a life-long commitment to change your eating and exercise habits. That's by far harder than the surgery itself.

The 1st week is no walk in the park, but over all, the recovery could be a whole lot worse. Just do your research and you will be able to make the decision if it's the right thing for you. Good luck in your decision. :)

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I think the reason this surgery makes us so nervous, aside from the obvious reasons, is that we are looking at making a life changing decision. We have come to a cross roads of letting go of food and fat and unveiling the inner person we all have hiding in us. It is a contradiction to the subconscious mind that has protected us so long and justified our eating weight gain. It is that very same subconscious that we hear all of those bargaining thoughts from as we travel down the road of this journey,,,things like Maybe I don't need surgery, I will just diet one more time, or I am not really that fat, ect..................

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I think the reason this surgery makes us so nervous, aside from the obvious reasons, is that we are looking at making a life changing decision. We have come to a cross roads of letting go of food and fat and unveiling the inner person we all have hiding in us. It is a contradiction to the subconscious mind that has protected us so long and justified our eating weight gain. It is that very same subconscious that we hear all of those bargaining thoughts from as we travel down the road of this journey,,,things like Maybe I don't need surgery, I will just diet one more time, or I am not really that fat, ect..................

AMEN!!!!! I have been feeling a little anxious about my surgery...which isn't until June...but THIS RIGHT HERE (well above ;) is why!!!! I had a really crappy day yesterday and went through a drive-thru yesterday - like I do when I'm upset....and driving I realized "I won't be able to do this soon!" and then after I had that moment of sadness - I realized this is EXACTLY why I want the sleeve! I've got to change! Thanks for this post.....

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AMEN!!!!! I have been feeling a little anxious about my surgery...which isn't until June...but THIS RIGHT HERE (well above ;) is why!!!! I had a really crappy day yesterday and went through a drive-thru yesterday - like I do when I'm upset....and driving I realized "I won't be able to do this soon!" and then after I had that moment of sadness - I realized this is EXACTLY why I want the sleeve! I've got to change! Thanks for this post.....

The really great thing about the sleeve is it has freed me from the control of food. I have had a really bad week and not once did I turn to food for comfort. It was the farthest thing from my mind, heck I even skipped dinner a couple nights, (ya that kind of bad).

Don't get too sad about food, you will eat pretty much anything you want again, just not in the quantity you do now.

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        We have to remember that everyone moves at their own pace. For some it may be harder to adjust, people may have other factors at play that feed into the unhealthy relationship with food e.g. eating disorders, trauma. I'd hope those who you are referring to address this outside of this forum, with a professional.


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