terrified to go to primacy doc appt today

[xxm4ndaaxx 2]

so i have my 2nd weigh in today at 345 at my primary doc. im not looking forward to it because i know i havent lost any weight.. i went to a cardiologist appt on monday and was the same..so i guess im happy i havent really gained, but my doctor is a prick. he yells at me and tears me apart for being obese. like he doesnt seem to get that i already realize im fat, and the heath risks that being fat have..hellooo thats why im getting surgery.

my last appt with him he went on a rant about how hes suprised im still alive with all this weight on.. when all my other specialists are more optimistic, and tell me theyre suprised how overall healthy i am for being overweight, and that theyre so happy im deciding to do this before i have problems.

im definitly getting a new pcp after surgery is all done, but i dont want to cause any insurance delays by changing doctors. but ive put this appointment off until the last day possible (need it in march, and theyre closed tomorrow), because hes either going to make me cry, or cause me to throw things at him.

im also going today cause im sick, sore throat, headache.. the only reason im slightly concerned is cause im coughing up a lot of dark mucus, and i want to make sure its not bronchitis...so im hoping that hes distracted with this, and maybe forgets to yell at me.

sorry i just needed to vent a little :myscared:

[disp4so 3]

wow you definately need to change doctors as soon as you're able.. and I would report him to the medical board... there is no excuse for that kind of cruelness. He should treat you with respect regardless of your size...

I am sending positive thoughts your way.....I hope your appointment today goes well..

so i have my 2nd weigh in today at 345 at my primary doc. im not looking forward to it because i know i havent lost any weight.. i went to a cardiologist appt on monday and was the same..so i guess im happy i havent really gained, but my doctor is a prick. he yells at me and tears me apart for being obese. like he doesnt seem to get that i already realize im fat, and the heath risks that being fat have..hellooo thats why im getting surgery.

my last appt with him he went on a rant about how hes suprised im still alive with all this weight on.. when all my other specialists are more optimistic, and tell me theyre suprised how overall healthy i am for being overweight, and that theyre so happy im deciding to do this before i have problems.

im definitly getting a new pcp after surgery is all done, but i dont want to cause any insurance delays by changing doctors. but ive put this appointment off until the last day possible (need it in march, and theyre closed tomorrow), because hes either going to make me cry, or cause me to throw things at him.

im also going today cause im sick, sore throat, headache.. the only reason im slightly concerned is cause im coughing up a lot of dark mucus, and i want to make sure its not bronchitis...so im hoping that hes distracted with this, and maybe forgets to yell at me.

sorry i just needed to vent a little :myscared:

[xxm4ndaaxx 2]

wow you definately need to change doctors as soon as you're able.. and I would report him to the medical board... there is no excuse for that kind of cruelness. He should treat you with respect regardless of your size...

I am sending positive thoughts your way.....I hope your appointment today goes well..

how do i go about reporting him?my brother had suggested the same thing, but i thought he was just messing around about being able to. and thanks so much for the well wishes

[disp4so 3]

here is a link to site where you can submit a complaint, or if you prefer there is a number you can call..

http://www.medbd.ca.gov/consumer/complaint_info.html

good luck !!

[MINI-Me 196]

If he starts to yell, calmly remind him that you are paying for this visit. As a consumer (and as a human being) being yelle at is no way to ensure repeat customers!

Say that you appreciate the counseling on the weight and that you need his help to jump through the insurance process.

Good luck!

[groovearmada 14]

Totally agree with Disp40so, get him reported and change as soon as you can.

What a horrible person, a bully. It is becasue of doctors like him that people end up suffering and becoming worse becuse they are too scared to ask for help.

Bring someone with you, he may be less likely to be so nasty with another person there or if that doesnt bother him you will have a witness to add to the report!

Good luck, dont let anyone make you cry!

[xxm4ndaaxx 2]

thats everyone for the responses, im deff going to change docs after i get surgery and whatnot, and probably will report him, depending how he does the next time i go there.

in case anyone was wondering, yesterdays appt went well, i actually lost 5 lbs! so he left me alone on that, although he was huffing and puffing while filling out the paper to send to insurance.. but me being sick distracted him. he was busy b!tching at me for not coming to see him sooner for being sick, when the symptoms really only got bad the night before and theyre not open all night so im not really sure what he expected me to do. but whatever, the cough can be fixed with some anti-biotics n cough meds.

one more weigh in end of april and then we submit to insurance :-D

[myrori 55]

If you MUST continue with this ASS I suggest you rehearse a reply that will stop him in his tracks. Like as soon as he starts put your hand up in front of his face and tell him "LOOK, I am trying here, I taking the steps required to have a life changing surgery so I can loose weight, so I don't need your lecture! Be sure to look in directly in the eye when you say it. He is a bully and and as long as he thinks he can push you he will, PUSH BACK!

[MINI-Me 196]

I'm glad you made it through the appointment ... sorry you have to deal with this. You are almost there!