Shanny 70 Posted March 7, 2011 I've been at my job for 6 years. It's a small place with about 60 employees and we're all pretty close. I fit in and I have a ton of friends here. Only 4 of them knew that I was out for surgery. I've always hid behind my weight. It was my shell, my protection. It helped make me invisible and play the background. Well, now that it's rapidly melting away, I don't know if I like all the attention. Everyone keeps telling me how good I look and I'm so embarrassed. People are stopping me in the hall and complimenting me. I should be living it up, right? WRONG! I feel...exposed. I didn't want to be invisible anymore, I just dont' know if I want to be visible yet - or this fast. I still look like the same person to me. My clothes don't fit, my scale and my coworkers says I've lost a lot of weight, so I guess I have, but I still feel like the shy, girl trying desperately to hide behind my fat so no one would notice me. Why is it that I never have therapy on the days that I having a crisis? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pattimomof3nj 21 Posted March 7, 2011 Ok, I know where you are coming from! first go to a quiet place in your office where you can be alone and just breathe. it is important to take the compliments for what they are worth. You have to remember these people are seeing you in a different light, they are seeing amazing results and do not know what is going on in your head just what is going on with your body! is there any way you can call your therapist to have a small little talk, maybe to get a grip on whats going on with you at the moment. if not, you are just going to have to take a few time outs to go breathe through them. at least until you are comfortable in your new smokin hot body!!! at least that is what i had to do!!! what until people come up to you and say 'DAMN GIRL you look HOT what are you doing!!!!" now that is embarrassing!!! I'm almost 40 and these 'kids' are just out of college! but i must admit it did feel really good!!! just go with it, after a while you will really like it, the first day is hard. they are in just as much shock as you are!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thinoneday 445 Posted March 7, 2011 I've been at my job for 6 years. It's a small place with about 60 employees and we're all pretty close. I fit in and I have a ton of friends here. Only 4 of them knew that I was out for surgery. I've always hid behind my weight. It was my shell, my protection. It helped make me invisible and play the background. Well, now that it's rapidly melting away, I don't know if I like all the attention. Everyone keeps telling me how good I look and I'm so embarrassed. People are stopping me in the hall and complimenting me. I should be living it up, right? WRONG! I feel...exposed. I didn't want to be invisible anymore, I just dont' know if I want to be visible yet - or this fast. I still look like the same person to me. My clothes don't fit, my scale and my coworkers says I've lost a lot of weight, so I guess I have, but I still feel like the shy, girl trying desperately to hide behind my fat so no one would notice me. Why is it that I never have therapy on the days that I having a crisis? I went through that exact same thing and let me tell you I HATED IT ! So I know how your feeling. . .I'm out now 14months and things have slowed down. . the comments don't come anymore except from those who haven't seen me in a long time, but that is expected. . so it does get better just hang in there. . . Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pcos_chick 23 Posted March 8, 2011 Just put it back on them.... When someone says, "You look great, are you losing weight?" Just say, "I was about to ask you the same thing!" Most folks are happy to have the lime light turned back on them.... and if they don't... it serves as a quick reminder not to say something like that to anyone else. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LilMissDiva Irene 3,282 Posted March 8, 2011 I've been at my job for 6 years. It's a small place with about 60 employees and we're all pretty close. I fit in and I have a ton of friends here. Only 4 of them knew that I was out for surgery. I've always hid behind my weight. It was my shell, my protection. It helped make me invisible and play the background. Well, now that it's rapidly melting away, I don't know if I like all the attention. Everyone keeps telling me how good I look and I'm so embarrassed. People are stopping me in the hall and complimenting me. I should be living it up, right? WRONG! I feel...exposed. I didn't want to be invisible anymore, I just dont' know if I want to be visible yet - or this fast. I still look like the same person to me. My clothes don't fit, my scale and my coworkers says I've lost a lot of weight, so I guess I have, but I still feel like the shy, girl trying desperately to hide behind my fat so no one would notice me. Why is it that I never have therapy on the days that I having a crisis? Get used to it!!! It will just continue as time goes on and as more weight drops. I'm getting stopped several times per day at work. I've slowly gotten more open to letting some know I had surgery - usually if I think the surgery might spark an interest in some folks. I mostly keep it to myself though, as really it's not anyone's business unless I make it their business. If the word gets around, oh well. Not sure I really care... LOL Anyway, people are just genuinely interested because everyone knows how hard it is to lose weight - so they will be asking for ideas. I at least can tell them its from all my running... haaa!!! It's not a lie though! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
