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GET THIS YOU GUYS!!!!! Yesterday a patient asked me if i'd give her the injectable she needed now or later, I explained to her that she had a bit of a wait and to go for lunch then come back and just ask for me. . . i gave her my name and she left for her lunch. . . when she came back did she ask for me by name? NOOOOO she asked for 'THE BIG WOMAN WITH THE PONYTAIL" errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr talk about being pissed off . . . lose 150 lbs and your still the BIG WOMAN!!!!! and she herself wasn't thin. . . :angry: Here I am thinking at 6' tall and into size 16 I was looking pretty darn good. . . umph. . . . Real moral booster huh! Well back to the drawing board! Yeah I gave her the injectable regardless with loving BIG WOMAN hands. . .

Maybe she just meant tall? I don't think a size 16 on your frame sounds like big as in... "big". Just my opinion of course - but yeah using "big" to reference anyone is very rude.

Blame her tactless tongue for that one.

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I get that all the time at work . Patients will say I would like the bigger girl that has the short hair to work on me.ughh

thanks maybe thats what she meant tall being no more then about 5'2 herself (normal height). . . ugh I hate being a sasquatch of a woman (blaming my ancestory )BUT a good looking sasquatch of a female if I do say so myself! :lol: i totally understand how you feel sassygirl,

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thanks maybe thats what she meant tall being no more then about 5'2 herself (normal height). . . ugh I hate being a sasquatch of a woman (blaming my ancestory )BUT a good looking sasquatch of a female if I do say so myself! :lol: i totally understand how you feel sassygirl,

I agree she probably meant tall but once you have a sore spot it festers when anyone gets near it... I had a speech impedemint growing up and there are still a few words that I just can't say at 40. When I go to a drive thru and they say I can't understand you it just crawls all over me. I always say is it that you can't hear me or your can't understand me? Such simple little words can make you mad. So when people refer to you as big a size 16 at 6'0 can only mean tall. It's something I might have said not knowing that you had been overweight before. If you were overweight when I saw you I would say the tall one. Good job on the weight loss.

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Here is a comeback for people that will boldly say you are fat. " Whaaatt! I am fat! Well thank you for letting me know cause I had no idea until you told me!" Then you walk away laughing cause you made them feel like a total ass.:lol:

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EEEEEWWWWWWW What a BITTER OLD MAN!!!!!!!!! OBVIOUSLY his mama didn't teach him right! It's so sad. All I can say is don't let the man get you down girl, keep on keeping on! YOU GOT THIS :) and you ultimatley will have the last laugh :)...hugs!

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I agree she probably meant tall but once you have a sore spot it festers when anyone gets near it... I had a speech impedemint growing up and there are still a few words that I just can't say at 40. When I go to a drive thru and they say I can't understand you it just crawls all over me. I always say is it that you can't hear me or your can't understand me? Such simple little words can make you mad. So when people refer to you as big a size 16 at 6'0 can only mean tall. It's something I might have said not knowing that you had been overweight before. If you were overweight when I saw you I would say the tall one. Good job on the weight loss.

Totally agree!! At size 16 and 6 feet, you are a skinny minnie!!! But, I know how you feel. One of my best friends is really tall, and these kinds of comments bother her, too, even though she's not overweight. :-(

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My mouth is still hanging open. Shocked by a person's lack of decorum. Stay strong and best not to engage with idiots or fools.

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I think someone that rude deserves to be shocked. Something crude is the first thing that comes to mind. I think something like "Well, I have heard of salad sir, but everytime I eat it, I get the sh*ts. Does it ever affect you like that?"

I am certain the look on his face would be well worth lowering yourself to that level. ;)

Quick vent:

I was at the grocery store with a friend of mine and we were getting something to take home for dinner. I was waiting on her and an elderly man walked up to me. He said "Haven't you ever heard of salad? Try eating some." I was completely speechless. Wasn't sure what to do or say so I just walked away and waited for my friend somewhere else.

Why do people feel that they can say things like this to others? Is it just poor manners or a sense of entitlement? I would NEVER in a million years walk up to someone and comment on their appearance or habits.

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Wow....he took the time and energy and went out of his way to say that to you. I suppose it could have been a situation where he may be eldery and senile. Which in that case it's probably a good thing you were too shocked to say anything. You never know what a mentally unstable person might be capable of. But it's true what a couple of other posters said about the fat discrination thing. I have even seen a couple of talk shows discussing this topic. People can be so ignorant.

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Oh man! I would have kicked his ass! Elderly or not! People suck. He is not even worth it. I wish I was there. I totally would have thrown something at him!

Quick vent:

I was at the grocery store with a friend of mine and we were getting something to take home for dinner. I was waiting on her and an elderly man walked up to me. He said "Haven't you ever heard of salad? Try eating some." I was completely speechless. Wasn't sure what to do or say so I just walked away and waited for my friend somewhere else.

Why do people feel that they can say things like this to others? Is it just poor manners or a sense of entitlement? I would NEVER in a million years walk up to someone and comment on their appearance or habits.

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I find saying something to "shock" them really is fun........and saying it nicely. Totally something they're not expecting. Cheap entertainment!! LoL

Oh man! I would have kicked his ass! Elderly or not! People suck. He is not even worth it. I wish I was there. I totally would have thrown something at him!

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Just the other week I was going thru McDonalds drive thru to get my boys dinner and some guy behind us kept yelling at me- telling me how fat I was and hoping there was food left after I got done going thru- and what not- the kicker- I hadn't ordered ONE thing for me! I just didn't know what to do- I started crying- of course then my kids are like- whats wrong mom- fortunately they had their ear phones on playing their DS's - but gosh- it was really the last straw to make the discission to have this done.

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