Questioning and Doubting

[tntransplant06 20]

Just wondering if everybody did that. I'm one week away from my surgery and I'm questioning my decision and wondering if I'm making the right decision. I just can't imagine not being able to eat with my family and friends. I know that will come in time, but it's just so mind-boggling to me right not. Do you REALLY not miss it? That little voice in the back of my head sure is becoming a LOUD ANNOYING passenger! LOL

[PlannerGirl 3]

It's so natural to feel apprehensive, but try to power through it. I promise you, in a couple of months you'll think of this as the best decision you've made in your life.

Just for an example of how normal life can be, I'll tell you about my dinner out this evening. I am 7 1/2 weeks post op. My husband and I plus a friend of ours went out for sushi tonight. We talked and enjoyed one another's company and all the while I enjoyed two pieces of salmon sushi and 2 pieces of albacore sushi without the rice of course. I was eating, just like they were, I was just eating much less. I took my time between bites and had far more opportunity to chat as my face wasn't always stuffed with food. I left feeling satisfied, full, and happy to have had a lovely dinner out.

Oh, and by the way, my friend doesn't know I had surgery and never once questioned what I was eating. It was all very very normal.

Try and remind yourself that the not being able to eat at all period is short. You will have the rest of your life to live in a healthy body and that is sooooo worth the effort.

Good luck to you!

[justdance 0]

Great question and great response planner girl!!! Reading that put me totally at ease.. everything u said is true that period of not being able to eat is short and a year from now a distant memory... take care during your surgery.. all the best!

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

I think I eat very normally. I go on dates and spend time with a lot of people who don't even know I had surgery.

The post op diet is very important because you don't want to be stressing out that staple line. Once you're off the post op diet, life is good!

[BZButterfly79 19]

Your feelings are normal but what you have to ask yourself is if those feelings are stronger than your desire to get healthy and start truly living. I was living to eat and not the other way around, I am now 4 weeks post-op and by no means an expert what I will say is that it is liberating to eat small portions and not leave a table feeling like I am going into a comma sponsored by carbs and the likes. Someone on this board mentioned nothing tastes as good as thin feels, I have to agree matter of fact food is not as attractive. It is like an old boyfriend who you are still friends with but no way in hell you are taking back as your man! That's how I feel, I am sitting here eating a Chobani Peach yogurt, added a couple of spoons of wheat germ. Last night I had a delicious dinner, I love looking for the "good" in what I put in my mouth versus taste and sugar high. I applaud you for the sushi as that is my favorite food, I look forward to going back to eat a couple with the delicacy sushi deserves and not buffet style. Best wishes whatever you choose.

[thinoneday 445]

Just wondering if everybody did that. I'm one week away from my surgery and I'm questioning my decision and wondering if I'm making the right decision. I just can't imagine not being able to eat with my family and friends. I know that will come in time, but it's just so mind-boggling to me right not. Do you REALLY not miss it? That little voice in the back of my head sure is becoming a LOUD ANNOYING passenger! LOL

are you mentally ready for this surgery? the statement "I just can't imagine not being able to eat with my family and friends" makes me wonder if your life revolves solely around food and if your willing to make this sacrifice or not? You won't have to shun your family and friends or sit in the corner to eat you know. . you'll just have more conversation time and family time available rather then who can eat more food time. . . Have you done enough research? Sorry if i sound harsh but it's a reality. . .good luck