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So, it's official. My financing is secured, my plane tickets purchased, and my surgery scheduled for February 25 in Tijuana with Dr. Rodriguez. I'm now terrified. I know that everything is falling into place for a reason, and while I am excited about getting my life back, I'm scared to death. I guess it didn't really feel "real" until now. My mother (the type A nurse who is 5 years post-op from her RNY and looking FABULOUS) is coming down with me and has probably spent more hours researching the surgeon than I have (she's incredibly protective over who will be operating on "her baby"), and she's assured me that I'll be fine; but I still can't shake this fear.

I don't even know what it is that I'm afraid of, because I'm not scared about the surgery itself I don't think. I've gone through abdominal surgery before, and came through it just fine. I guess part of it has to do with nerves about being operated on in a foreign country, not to mention the fact that I'm also a nervous flyer, so thinking about the trip out isn't the most comforting thing for me either.

Ugh....I'm just frustrated with myself. I believe in wls, because I've seen first hand what a great tool it is to help people get their lives back, but my God I've never been so nervous for anything in my entire life. Sometimes I wish I just had a fast forward button for my life so I could skip ahead and make sure that everything turns out okay.

Did anybody else experience some intense anxiety about their surgery? Hopefully feeling this way is normal and I'm not just freaking out..

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What you are feeling is sooo normal! I can remember feeling that way myself. As it gets closer it will feel like time is standing still lol. Congratulations on taking this step to a new and healthier you!! I am really happy for you.

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Your feelings are completely normal and understandable. Best of luck to you & congratulations!

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Ever since I paid for my plane tickets and put my deposit down I have been a bundle of nerves. I keep on thinking this is for real now that I have paid. Time seems to be flying yet going slow and I am full of so many emotions that I wonder what I will be like closer to the actual date. We are getting the surgery within the same week.

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I feel similarly-- I was calm as anything until I got the date and the plane tickets and now I'm scared, too. I"m afraid the surgery won't work, that I'll have uncontrollable nausea or pain, that I'll get dehydrated, spring a leak, etc, etc. The funny thing is, I have a high pain tolerance, the one procedure I had under general anesthesia went fine and I had no nausea, I follow directions well, and I tell myself that I am a better surgical candidate than many (lower BMI and no comorbidities.) But I am still scared.

My date is January 13 and I hope I don't get any more anxious. I eat when I'm anxious!

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I am so excited for you ! I had a friend who used him

2 yrs ago this feb and is still doing great!!! I will be there the same week but with Dr. Kelly on the 21st so let's stay in touch . Congrats and don't be scared , you got this covered!

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Oh thank God I'm not the only one! AutumnLily when are you scheduled and who are you using if you don't mind me asking? I'm really glad there's somebody else going around the time I am...now I have someone to be accountable to! Still terrified, but it's slowly getting better as I talk it out with people.

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Hi! I think I relate to your feelings. My date is Jan 10 in Mexico. When all my arrangements were completed, I was pretty tight. I have since calmed a bit. All the people on this sight are such wonderful support. As my husband is also anxious, we are not good to talk with each other about it. However, the good folks on this site know how we feel, and are so helpful. Even if you don't write lots, just reading others successes, fears, concerns, and triumphs is such good "medicine". Soon your date will be close, and you will be so glad that you are in the right place. It's great your Mom will be with you, especially as flying is difficult for you. Good LucK! Be Free

So, it's official. My financing is secured, my plane tickets purchased, and my surgery scheduled for February 25 in Tijuana with Dr. Rodriguez. I'm now terrified. I know that everything is falling into place for a reason, and while I am excited about getting my life back, I'm scared to death. I guess it didn't really feel "real" until now. My mother (the type A nurse who is 5 years post-op from her RNY and looking FABULOUS) is coming down with me and has probably spent more hours researching the surgeon than I have (she's incredibly protective over who will be operating on "her baby"), and she's assured me that I'll be fine; but I still can't shake this fear.

I don't even know what it is that I'm afraid of, because I'm not scared about the surgery itself I don't think. I've gone through abdominal surgery before, and came through it just fine. I guess part of it has to do with nerves about being operated on in a foreign country, not to mention the fact that I'm also a nervous flyer, so thinking about the trip out isn't the most comforting thing for me either.

Ugh....I'm just frustrated with myself. I believe in wls, because I've seen first hand what a great tool it is to help people get their lives back, but my God I've never been so nervous for anything in my entire life. Sometimes I wish I just had a fast forward button for my life so I could skip ahead and make sure that everything turns out okay.

Did anybody else experience some intense anxiety about their surgery? Hopefully feeling this way is normal and I'm not just freaking out..

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