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It's officially two days before I get sleeved(Dec. 20th)-Yippee! I'm excited, nervous and bewildered all at once. I can't believe I've come this far-Day twelve liquid diet successfully completed. I am a little scared about not being able to enjoy eating again for the rest of my life. I know it's silly because so many of you here say that the way you eat now is better than it has ever been, and that you no longer crave the foods that got us all into trouble to begin with. I'm sure it's true-it's just really hard to fathom from this side of the equation. It still feels like a dream that after all the ups and downs surgery day is almost here. I'm excited to be healthy, but also scared at what that might mean and how much it could change my life. My wife is going through some serious insecurity right now, quoting that the post op divorce rate for WLS is 85%. she has been dead set against this since day one and now I know why. My intent is to get healthy again and embark on a journey that will be beneficial to our entire family-her and my kids. No more diabetes, no more complications, better quality of life for all-she just doesn't seem to believe that. If anyone has any advice on how to talk the spouse off the ledge, please let me know-I'm trying to remain calm pre-op and i just want to relax this weekend.

On a separate note-I obviously have approval for the surgery, I received a letter from my insurance company last week verifying coverage. Today, however, some of my claims for pre-op orders and tests (ultrasound, EKG,, chest x-rays) were denied-for reasons due to pre-existing condition???? I'm confused-How can I be approved for the surgery and at the same time receive denials on claims for orders, tests and evaluations that are pre-requisites required by Health partners for approval. I did have a lapse in coverage and the only thing I did was get a health screening at a CVS minute clinic so that I could apply for insurance before I found my last job. It's very frustrating. If anyone knows how best to appeal this please let me know. Wish me luck on Monday...

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Ring your insurance and check with them. Your denial could just be an error.

Re divorce rate... well it's better to worry about that than worry about the widower rate! wink.gif Seriously though, the divorce rate is at 50% anyway. My hubby was concerned I might get ripped and leave him, but you just need to re-assure your wife that you won't and that this surgery and your marriage is what you make of it.

Re enjoying food - I was enjoying stuff within a week of surgery (just chicken broth mind you). I'm nearly 3 weeks out and you do get to enjoy food, just in smaller quantities. Eat slowly and you won't want to eat too much - yep you read correctly, you won't WANT to! It's natural to feel nervous, but it's worth it.

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