CLOE 0 Posted June 13, 2006 Okay, don't you think that after enduring 15-20 years of obesity, endless sleepless nights, seeking out a surgeon and a relatively new weight-loss procedure, 3 WEEKS of opti-fast, abdominal surgery, not being able to eat, wondering if your doing aright........losing 38 pounds......that if someone noticed you have lost weight they would TELL YOU!!!!!! Apparently, not so. After whining to my family that I seem to be the only one able to tell that I've lost weight, they all said they noticed a different area of my body looking smaller....but were afraid to say anything.....Hmmmmmmmmmmmm:confused: , Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
maryb 1 Posted June 13, 2006 Do you think that they thought it would jinks you if they said something? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jude048 0 Posted June 14, 2006 WAY TO GO CLOE!!!!!!! What a great job you've done so far!!! Be very proud of yourself and your accomplishment. Too bad your family hadn't said something but they will now - now they know it is ok to say something!!!! smiles!! YOU GO GIRL!!!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yoda 0 Posted June 14, 2006 Yup, way to go Cloe. Yeah, I don't think they were being insensitive; they just didn't know if it was "ok" to say something or to mention it. Me....I have mixed feelings. People are sort of damned if they do and damned if they don't. Part of me wants ppl to notice and perhaps make a comment and the other part of me doesn't want anyone to say a peep. Not that I think it will jinx it (though I'm sure that is how some ppl feel, Mary!) but omigawd...nooo, don't talk about me...even to my face about this!!! hehe. Plus, I don't want ppl to start making inquiries ("oh, how did you lose the weight" etc etc). Those who have said something: I sort of shrink up in embarassment and downplay it and change the subject; those who don't say anything, I think...helloooooo!!! I know it's me...not them. I'm the one with the "issues"! See what I mean; damned if they do, and damned if they don't!!!!! :tired Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CLOE 0 Posted June 14, 2006 Ya, I guess now that I think about it, your right. My poor husband I'm sure dosent no what to say. For the past 19 years he has had to dance around the subject to protect my feelings, or in case he said the wrong thing, thus never getting sex again....lol.:confused: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Teresita 0 Posted June 14, 2006 People don't want to say anything just in case you gain it back. They just don'w know you have thousands of family members on LBT supporting you and that WILL NOT HAPPEN AGAIN. GOOOOOO CLOE!!!:high5: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
saul 0 Posted June 14, 2006 Its the people who do not see you on a daily basis that will tell you how good you look that you lost weight and then always ask how you did it. Last night I took my wife out to a restaraunt near my office. I had not been there since before my surgery. I sat at my usual table and my usual waiter came to take my order (I only had a bowl of soup). He was shocked at how much I lost! He could not believe it. And ofcourse he asked how I did it. I dont mind telling anyone that I had LB, so i told him. I think he wants to make an appointment with my surgeon. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Buffie 1 Posted June 14, 2006 It's really frustrating because we'd all freak if someone said, hey Buffie, I noticed that your ass is getting bigger! And I guess they just figure our weight issues are SO sensitive that they don't want to add anything at all...when ALL we want to hear is, hey Buffe, I noticed your ass is getting SMALLER!! The important thing is that YOU feel better and YOU notice! GOOD JOB and keep up the good work!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathy473 1 Posted June 14, 2006 I know what you mean...On one hand you want to be noticed for your hard work on losing the weight but on the other hand when they do say something it makes you think...."What the hell was wrong with me before?" It makes you have mixed emotions in a way. :confused: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Time2live 0 Posted June 15, 2006 WAY TO GO CLOE!:clap2: :clap2: :clap2: :clap2: :clap2: Maybe it's because they don't want you to feel pressured. Like Oooo she knows that we know that she's lost weight...now what if she freaks out and starts gaining it back....I dunno...I always feel pressure when people notice that I've lost weight...cuz what if they next time they see me, I've gained it back plus 10? Then what do they say? It's not like they are going to say..."Sorry the diet didn't work out." But I would know they were thinking it...lol...I agree with Yoda....Damned if they do and damned if they don't. K I'm done... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JMO 0 Posted June 15, 2006 clo, You have done great.... I know how you feel about no one noticing.. I am 6'2 so if I lose 20 lbs. NO ONE NOTICES, but on the other hand if I gain 20 lbs. NO ONE NOTICES>>> lol but I won't be doing that anymore... only loss from now on... lol Good job keep it up.. they will soon be commeting on how awsome you look.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
