Fuming!

[NewSho 20]

...I understand you were upset by the PM that was sent to you. However I went back and read your original posts and you do say the SURGEON considered you a lapband failure. You also said in one post that you were coming out of the lapband failure closet.. Myra

That's true, Myra, my surgeon basically did call me a failure. I think he sees HIMSELF as a failure - the band failed me, I didn't fail it. I'm clear on that point. If it continues to fail me, I'll move on to something else if I need to. But I will not view myself as a failure. Why? I don't call myself a failure because I have never lacked for determination. I have the same fierce determination now that I had to research Weight Loss Surgery, to get myself approved (before I had a surgeon) and lay on that Operating Room table twice - and I applied that determination to try to succeed with it. If I'm not a success, fine. When I used that terninology I was referring to the idea of having the band not do all it could for me. But a peer calling me a LapBand failure was a bit much.

And yes, I am not near where I'd like to be weight-wise, but to be frank, having someone that potentially weighs 100+ more than I do now call me a failure really seemed crass. It's bad enough from a normal-weight surgeon but from another patient who hasn't even started? OUCH.

But although I stand by my feelings, hopefully one day I'll be at/closer to my personal goal so comments like this wouldn't even be something that could affect me.

Happy Band (And Life) Journeys To All...

[Mvpo8961 1]

New Sho I think in the land of lapband you have few peers. Not many have lived through your experiences and come out ahead of the situation.

M

[rachele 0]

I just wanted to say I think you are a true inspiration, not a failure at all, because you didn't quit. You are absolutely not a failure. You've done great, and you WILL do great, because you are experienced, and intelligent.

Maybe next time this person will think before they PM. We already have enough to deal with in everyday life, much less a member of our own community calling us a failure.

[sheryl 3]

You have a BMI less than 30??? H-E-L-L-O !!! I can only dream about being in your shoes!!! Failure??? Hardly!!!

You are an inspiration. Just because you aren't a size __ (fill in the blank), doesn't mean you are a failure. You aren't even obese!!

[terrriho 0]

People use the word failure in such a negative way but really, when it comes down to it, you put yourself on the line and you followed through. Do you know how much :hail: courage that takes? I think you were very brave. If you hadn't tried, think about where you would be. Failure?, not a chance.

I think when you are in the research and decision part of this journey, you don't want to hear that this remarkable tool, your salvation so you have been told, has a dark side. In order to reconcile this you look for something the person might have done to cause the problem. That way you don't have to face the possiblity that you too could have a problem. Perhaps this person was trying to do this. In the meantime, it was very insensitive and good for you for telling her so. Life is about learning and I am sure she learned something today.

T

[juliegeraci 7]

Sorry to hear you are pin pointed. This isn't fair. We all have our weight loss journeys and that person was insensitive. Good luck.