male only Support from Wife?

roboniko · September 20, 2010

Thanks everyone! I am glad to know I have friends here. Surgery in 12 hours. Probably will start getting nervous after the saints game! Hope they win, will definitely be in a better mood.... Will try and post Wednesday or Thursday..

Dave_NW · September 20, 2010

Good luck, Tim! See you on the recovery side of the operating room.

Dave

roboniko · September 21, 2010

Thanks Dave, you too.

thinoneday · September 22, 2010

so roboniko, how'd you do? feeling ok? sipping, walking and then walking some more? Sure hope so. . . . chat soon again!

Brian66 · September 23, 2010

Roboniko,

My wife died of cancer almost 4 years ago when she was just 41. I made the decision to have the surgery because I felt that it was critical for me to re-claim my health so that I could be there for my three children. I am the only parent they have left. It has been scary making the decision and going through with the surgery without having my wife to rely on for love and support. One of the things I've thought about since having the surgery is how my wife would have felt about it. She battled her weight her whole life and I think there is a chance that she would have felt some of the same things that your wife is feeling. I don't have any real answers for you, but I would suggest buying her a big bunch of flowers, giving her a hug and a kiss and telling her that you are doing this for her (and the kids if you have any) as much as you are doing it for you. After that, let the chips fall where they may and concentrate on doing what you have to do for yourself and your family. She will come around in time.

Good luck to you. Keep us posted!

Brian

roboniko · September 24, 2010

Well, back home now and doing the usual. Sipping and walking and draining... Most of the soreness is gone except when i cough. Still lots of gurgling. Overall doing OK. She has been there along with my best friend who is also wanting to do the surgery. So between the 2 of them they are taking care of me. SO she is supportive in the physical sense anyways, helping me with things so it is a start. Hope things keep going in the right direction.....