Surgery Secrecy

[sleeve4me 0]

My sister had gastric bypass about 4 years ago and I went to a social outing at her class reunion with her and most people didn't recognize her, and when they finally did, they said "wow! how did you lose all of that weight?" and she looked at me like "should I tell people?" and I would just say "lots and lots of hard work!" (because it is, and they hadn't seen her in about 10 years). I had the sleeve and when people say "wow, did you have gastric bypass" I say, "nope"... but my friends, family and co-workers know, I am just not announcing it to acquaintences or on facebook.. Sometimes I find anyway that people have no idea what the sleeve is and are kind of like "humm?"

[BlackBerryJuice 349]

I've been slowly breaking the news to people in my circle of friends - I didn't tell most of them before the surgery because I didn't want people who know nothing about the operation OR my surgeon to try to scare me away from doing it. Already had one unpleasant reaction. There's a person in my circle who I've gradually stopped considering a friend (very self-absorbed, never available for me when I want to talk to her, treats me badly and then justifies it by being "stressed out and busy," expects me to pick up the tips when we go out even though she has parents who pay for everything, etc), but all my friends are friends with her, so I have to continue to socialize with her. I decided it'd be very weird if everyone knew and accidentally mentioned it and she didn't know, so I figured I'd tell her just like I've told/will tell the other 2 people. She was like, "Are you ok!?" I was like, "Oh yeah, I'm fine, I can't eat very much and still am not allowed to touch most foods, but I don't have any pain or anything." She's like, "No, I mean, are you OK!?" - you know, as in, MENTALLY. Uh, yes....what a tool. To be expected, I guess. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have told her - her accidentally finding out from other people would've been a nice slap in the face.