Question about dating before surgery

[Nikkeystar 12]

I'm single and I have been meeting people online and in person, nothing serious has come as of yet but my question is what do you tell people that you've just met about your surgery? There is this one guy that I met a couple of weeks ago and I really like him and he thinks that I'm having a "female surgery". My concern is if he wanted to come see me in the hospital or even at home after surgery and I'm drinking broth and pureed foods.

[jennylou3 0]

i'm an odd thinker, but i dont see any reason not to tell him. If he is willing to take the time to come visit, I would assume that he can handle the reason your there. If he doesnt like the reason at least you know now, but i really cant see that happening.

[stromgardgirl 0]

I would have to agree. There is no reason to not be completely truthful. Luckily my hubby completely supports my decision.

[Nikkeystar 12]

Thank you both Jennylou and Stromgardgirl.

[StaySea 2]

I say tell him the truth now. I think it's easier then explaining later when a) your drinking your food and shrinking faster then a person who had "lady surgery". And if he likes you know I don't see why he wouldn't like you after...there will just be less of you. :tongue_smilie: That's what I tell my boyfriend (of 3 yrs) who seems nervous about me having this surgery (he questions how safe it is to remove 85% of ones stomach forever). I just tell him it will make me healthier in the long run so we have more time to spend together and there will just be less of me to nag at him. :lol0: