Who Did You Tell?

[cindyn 0]

My husband and daughter (24) know. My daughter plans on helping around house while hubby is working during day for few days.

I too will share with a fat stuggling person because usually the advise for a person who has no weight issues is "why don't you just cut your calories??". LIke I have not tried that...anyway, I feel it is none of anyones business. Just sit back and watch fat Cindy change!!!

[Tired_Old_Man 1]

So I'm just curious who all you told about your WLS. I'm pondering this question now and would love to hear from you all.

Thanks,

Mslynn

I told people on "a need to know basis".

Anyone else and I would have to kill them.

[mslynn 0]

Well, I'm banded, and I only told a limited few. I don't regret that, yet. Will keep you posted.

Thanks,

Mslynn

:wave:

[tztmama 0]

I tell anyone who asks how I lost weight.

[Loving-It 0]

I told my parents, my daughter, my manager, the President of the company I work for, 2 of my real life friends, and about 4 people on one of the message boards I go to. So about 11 people.

[aussie_jode 0]

Oooh, this is funny. I wasn't going to tell ANYONE, just dh and Aunty who had it. Then I told my brother and his wife too, and the people Iwas staying with when I went for the band. That was it I wasn't going to tell anyone else...

Now its a different story, I just about tell anyone (2 yrs out so very comfy with the idea) but I don't tell ppl I don't like much or didn't like previously. You know, the ones who always had something to say about my weight. I just let them suffer!!! (Especially since I am healthier than them now!! :Banane48: )

My kids are 6 and under. Eldest knows I had an op, but she doesn't know what it is all about. I guess I will tell her one day if she asks, I am sure she will see all the photos eventually.

[shackdog 1]

tell everyone, its grt and it just builds you a large support group

[Leona06 0]

I TOLD EVERYONE I Can and will continue to tell people because I believe if we become more open and sharing people will lose the stigma of wls. It will become so common, people will stop talking about it. Right now, so many people ask me about it and are curious to know how it works because they are interested in themselves. I am not embarrassed by the band because I am getting it to better myself. It is a tool to help us... why not share that tool with others. If people don't understand it, they have no choice but to critisize (sp) it.

I find that once I explain what will happen...most accept the band and some even embrace it!

I think I will love my band, and I will love all the attention I'll get after I get it... I can't wait to go shopping again...because I knew I'd be getting the surgery, I haven't bought new clothes in a year! whew... can't wait!

[cris35 2]

I tell everyone that I'm getting banded. If it weren't for a friend of mine telling me about her lapband last year, I never would have even known the band existed. She would have been sitting there all thin and pretty, and I would have stayed fat forever. Believe it or not, most people who hear wls, think about GB, alot of people don't know about the band, so I tell people. Even if they are thin, they might know someone who might find it useful for them.

[mslynn 0]

My concern is that if I tell more than a few, then *everyone* will know (word will get out without my control). Otherwise, if I knew it would stay managed, I'd tell 2-3 more friends...

:shrug:

Mslynn

[jgandg 0]

I wanted to just tell my husband, mother, brother, and 3 close friends. I did not want to tell anyone else, b/c like others have said, I didn't want the added stress of being monitored all the time, and having people feel free to contantly ask me how it's going.

Well, my mom just told my sister, accidentally.:phanvan I specifically asked her not to tell her, b/c she is very close to my father (my parents are divorced) and my father is one reason I am overweight to begin with - he was constantly monitoring my weight growing up, even when I was thin. So now I need to ask my sister to please not share this with anyone else, i.e. our father, and I really hope she respects my wishes.

[Carlene 12]

I have pretty much been out of the closet since I was outed by the mother of a friend of a friend - one of those it's-a-small-world things. Seems my daughter-in-law's friend has a mom who plays bridge with an old friend of mine. Somehow they connected the dots and Carol (my friend) called me up and asked me if I had had WLS. Thank goodness I said yes! I would have been really embarrassed to be caught in a bald-faced lie!

I don't advertise it, but I have decided to own up to it if anyone asks about my weight loss. So far (19 months) I have had not one single negative comment. And sometimes you find support in places you least expect it.

[Tired_Old_Man 1]

Somehow they connected the dots and Carol (my friend) called me up and asked me if I had had WLS. Thank goodness I said yes! I would have been really embarrassed to be caught in a bald-faced lie!

I do not like lying, but some things are no one's business.

I wonder how much hinesty you would have gotten if you had asked Carol an equally personal question on a different subject.

I can think of many questions, but for the sake of civility, I will leave you (and the other readers) to assume what I might mean, that would probably not get an honest answer.

[Carlene 12]

I do not like lying, but some things are no one's business.

I wonder how much hinesty you would have gotten if you had asked Carol an equally personal question on a different subject.

I can think of many questions, but for the sake of civility, I will leave you (and the other readers) to assume what I might mean, that would probably not get an honest answer.

I guess you would have to know Carol! This woman will ask anything/tell anything. Her doctor advised her to have a complete hysterectomy while she was in her early 30's. She really wanted to keep her ovaries, if possible, so as not to be thrown into early, surgical menopause. The doctor asked her, "Do you have some kind of emotional attachment to your ovaries"?

Carol said, "No....I don't think so. Do you have an emotional attachment to your testicles"?

His response was, "Oh, I understand completely". Sure he does...since you put it THAT way. LOL...

[imagine 3]

I chose to tell a few friends and my parents. My mom let my siblings in on it as well as my Uncle, at which point I had to tell my Grandmother or she would be pissed.

I am not telling anyone else, only because I don't want their input on my decision. I have done the research, I am going to the best surgeon in the area and a world class hospital.

That being said, when I come back I don't plan on hiding it. If people want to think that this was the easy way out then let them. I have no control over that. I will tell them if for no other reason then the truth is the easiest thing to remember.

I have gotten a few people who do not understand this. They think weight loss is about will power. No understanding of Obesity.