Question about post-op dating-for the men and single ladies

[ouroborous 519]

You know when you're waiting for your date to arrive, all kinds of things go through your head. If you're like me, the more things you get resolved the more confident you'll feel. Now I think a good plan of action is to track down some extremely hip music that you can shake that thang to when you're feeling your Wheaties about 6 months from now!

This is a very good idea -- although we men are visual creatures, confidence matters too. Just like for women with men, with men there's nothing more annoying than a woman who's always talking down on herself, always insecure, and clearly not comfortable in her skin.

So even if you can't make your looks "perfect" (and let's face it, who can... besides, "perfect" is very subjective) if you're confident and happy and FEEL sexy, that will be a HUGE draw. I've been VERY attracted to larger women in the past (including my girlfriend) because they were confident, happy creatures.

So it's not ALL visual.

[BJean 16]

Well said! That was actually what I was trying to say in an earlier post! Self-confidence is an aphrodisiac. That's why "bad boys" are so attractive to women. And a self-confident woman (not a self-centered woman) is usually a better bed partner.

As ouroborous intimated, a person apologizing all the time for her arms, tummy or whatever, is really focused on all the wrong stuff when you're wanting to have a good time. It's been my experience that if you're focused on your mate and you're not worried about your pound of flesh (metaphorically) you're both going to have more fun for sure!