male only Um... endowment?

[b_bob 0]

>To us guys, our "endowment" is intimately tied to our self-esteem. Now, on that front, I'm doing okay genetically speaking, but, well, I'm fat. Obese. The result of that is that I have a big gut hiding... things from me, and a fat pad above the pubic area that also makes stuff look >smaller than it really is.

>I know, I know, it's silly and shallow, but then again -- isn't all concern over our appearance silly and shallow? I'm not counting on a dramatic change in this area, but it would be nice to have that uh... little REMINDER that "hey, I'm a man after all!"

Yes, yes, shallow and silly. So what?

I can tell you you'll end up with no more than you started with. the difference is that you'll notice it all rather than just what outside the fat pads. I sure your girl with too.

[HetKF 33]

Yeah, when my Husband gained weight his manhood decreased. I believe the fat pad is called a "turtle"...lol. He was definitely more endowed when he was thinner. My pad has gone down as well and sex is definitely more gratifying. Sex is always better when your thinner...period.

[Tracy46545 6]

Um....so what's the verdict? is it back or what?

[ouroborous 519]

And then some...

[Tracy46545 6]

And then some...

haha! Congrats!

[buchannon 17]

Back and with a vengeance

[HetKF 33]

And then some...

Lol.....good for you!!!

[FindingMe75 9]

Thank you for this thread...I just joined and it's good to know I'm not the only one. I've noticed everything from the lack of libido to the visual appearance (or should I say disappearance) over the last year or so as my weight rose. It's a hopeless feeling.

I've been on my liquid diet for just over a week and scheduled to get sleeved next Tuesday. I've already noticed a bit of improvement in, let's say, 'function', and I'm really looking forward to getting back to what I used to be! I've been heavy since I was a kid, and I've had the abdominal fat and pad all my life, even when I've been slimmer over the years. Does the pad totally go away, or has anyone needed to resort to Lipo or something to completely get rid of it?

[Hip 2]

Im laughing at this thread the whole time. I lost over 100 when I got lap band and it was nice to see mr.happy in his glory(which already wasnt that glorious..LOL). Definitly makes you feel more manly and during sex exploits its nice to see whats goin on...LOL

[ranchersdaughter 9]

And then some...

......and you were worried about the responses here! hehe!

I made my nonsleeved hubby read this......just sort of as a little encouragement for him to maybe take a little initiative in watching his weight. Hey, I want him to be around as long as I am and still "in the mood"!!!!

Thanks for posting!!!!!

Christal

[Coookies 13]

Congrats!!

And I read on some health site that the average overweight man loses 1 inch per 35-50 pounds he is overweight due to the 'fat pad'.....

[Used2b575lbs 29]

Some of these calculations and statements are funny but I will say theres a definite difference and it's all for the better...

I've lost almost 320 lbs and it definitely has helped in this area tremendously

[Discocactus 0]

Great topic this! I am 8 weeks out from VSG and 60 lbs lighter. For some years my blood pressure meds have caused impotence. I have used Viagra with some success but now use Cialis as it lasts for 3 days (the medication that is, not the erection) and alcohol doesn't interfere with performance. My experience is that I have been transformed into a teenager (in terms of performance not that I have lost half a brain). My wife is pleased with the results. Another side effect is that I believe that the erection is bigger for the simple reason it is maintained at full strength for longer. I have come off one of 2 fairly strong BP meds and am hoping to reduce this further. It should be interesting to see what happens impotence wise. There seems to be some improvement already but Cialis gives you such, how shall I put it, confidence, that I may not want to stop using it. This lack of confidence also happens to men as they age, so Cialis is a bit of a wonder drug in my experience, tho' fairly expensive and needs a prescription (at least in Australia). This seems like a great topic for a clinical trial.

Okay, okay, I know I'll get a whole lot of "size doesn't matter" responses to this, and it's embarrassing to even ask. However...

To us guys, our "endowment" is intimately tied to our self-esteem. Now, on that front, I'm doing okay genetically speaking, but, well, I'm fat. Obese. The result of that is that I have a big gut hiding... things from me, and a fat pad above the pubic area that also makes stuff look smaller than it really is.

Any guys (or gals for that matter) know if losing the weight will make the, um, package area more prominent?

I know, I know, it's silly and shallow, but then again -- isn't all concern over our appearance silly and shallow? I'm not counting on a dramatic change in this area, but it would be nice to have that uh... little REMINDER that "hey, I'm a man after all!"

Anyone?

[ouroborous 519]

Also, to the medical geeks out there, my total blood testosterone went from just over 300 prior to the VSG, to just under 600 about 9 months later (and holding steady). The end result is that EVERYTHING is harder and firmer and, well, bigger, down there, and my morning wood is back (yay!) and my muscles and endurance are showing the improvement, as is my mood and concentration. And my libido is... slightly crazy. The only downside is that I now actually NEED to shave at least once a day, and if I'm not careful, I'll grow hair from all kinds of awkward places. But that's a small price to pay!

So, while I wouldn't say I'm a teenager again (heck, I was obese as a teenager; I never WAS a teenager in that sense!) -- I'm not stupid and impulsive and rude -- I will say that losing 100+ pounds has been the best thing that ever happened to my sex life. Period. I only wish I could have had this when I was in my 20's instead of at age 40... but I'm still not going to pass up on the fun

[Newly Calibrated 3]

Went from 0 times a month to 4-5 times a day and it's been only a week since surgery.Good thing there is more than one recipient of this newly found fortune to pass it around. I do know the first time I "cashed" my chips in, at the time of release there was a huge tug just under my sternum. I'm thinking where the hiatal was fixed. I stoppped for a moment, thought about it, assessed the situation and all looked good so I pressed on. No wondering after that.

I'll have to run that by the Doc. when I see him. Actually I have a fitness class with the Dr's office's personal trainers tomorrow. I'll see if it's a question that can make them blush. I ain't afraid.