Dating 2 guys is getting complicated

[Tiffykins 673]

thanks for your advice. I'll keep that in mind.

Right now, I am still seeing both of them until one of them shows me in some way or another that they want to become more serious. I have not gotten that feeling from either one of them.

As you should do what feels right for you, and your specific needs/wants.

I personally refused to commit to one man for many years. My mother called me a perpetual dater. I dated more than 2 men at any given time. I had a "full dance card" so to speak, and while many wanted a commitment it wasn't something I wanted at that time in my life.

I've told you that I would go out with a bunch of different guys, and enjoy living. I never wanted to be exclusive and a relationship was the furthest thing from my mind at that point in my life.

You'll know what to do when the time comes, and just sit back and enjoy yourself. In no way are you stringing anyone a long. These are adult men that are can ask where they stand in your life. If they don't have the balls to man up, and ask for exclusiveness, then it's not stringing them along.

It's called dating. Nothing more, nothing less.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Thanks Tiff! There are times when I do feel really guilty, and then there are other days when I don't hear from them that I don't feel like I am an important part of their life.

So, until one of them shows me or starts talking about his feelings for me, I remain confused. I am not going to sit home if I have an invitation to do something fun. I just don't feel the need to say " oh and by the way, last night I went out with somebody else because you didn't call."

[cyates 1]

Ah, as an old married woman, I'm jealous! I remember those days. Have fun, keep it casual, and when the right one comes along, you'll know!