FRIENDS-Maybe/Maybe Not

[BlaqBeary 23]

Has anyone changed because you are not the way/look you used to be? Does your friends or family think you have changed along with your body image.

[ohtobeme 0]

I often wonder about that as well. I've always told people I would rather be fat and happy than skinny and miserable

I'm guessing it depends on the individual, their recovery, weight loss and their overall personality. Some people seem naturally happy.

On the other hand .. I have heard of marital problems following WLS, husbands in particular. They tend to love their partner but get worried, sometimes suspicious and generally a little paranoid about what this is going to do to their spouse and even if they'll leave them once they've found their "new self". Personally, I think if the marriage is a good one and they are going through the process supporting one another .. this shouldn't be an issue.

Blessings

John

[FabBy50 0]

I have not changed at all, well maybe my confidence is up a little, I have more energy. Thats about it. I love the new me, but the old me is still there!!

[BlaqBeary 23]

yes i agree. fortunately i have a good marriage. my husband is supporting me 100%. i told him the only change i expect is to where shorts and a cute bathing suit. :thumbup:he said "that's right baby".

I often wonder about that as well. I've always told people I would rather be fat and happy than skinny and miserable :thumbup:

I'm guessing it depends on the individual, their recovery, weight loss and their overall personality. Some people seem naturally happy.

On the other hand .. I have heard of marital problems following WLS, husbands in particular. They tend to love their partner but get worried, sometimes suspicious and generally a little paranoid about what this is going to do to their spouse and even if they'll leave them once they've found their "new self". Personally, I think if the marriage is a good one and they are going through the process supporting one another .. this shouldn't be an issue.

Blessings

John

[Queendiva 0]

I am still trying to come up with a way for Medicare to pay for the Sleeve but when I do I think my husband will be almost as happy as I am. He knows the struggles I've been through and the difference it will make in my health. For me, he married me and has loved me this way for going on 33 years so I don't see myself trading him in for a newer model. It wouldn't make a lot of sense. If you have someone who loves you and you love him or her, the weight loss should only make the relationship better. If one of you are confused or not secure in the relationship then I can see problems developing but I subscribe to the adage, "dance with the one that brung you"