im new and been scared of this for years

ladybashful · January 25, 2010

I have been over weight all my life. I was 16 when i was in a abusive mental and psychically also emotionally relationship so when we broke up i went in a deep depression in gained about100 lbs then i had a 10 lb baby girl and gained a bout 80 now she is 4 and i probably have gained 50 more. i wanted to get it after i had my daughter because i hit 300 i couldn't belive that was my highest weight the doctor wouldn't do the referral cause she thought i could lose weight on my own since i was weighing in every week and kept loosing weight i guess back then u had to be able to prove you couldn't lose weight. so it's been 3 years and im not losing weigh just gaining i feel i have a medical problem but all my test came back fine. for those three years i have just been scared to do the surgery. i don't know what to expect im afriad i won't be able to take care of my 4 year old:crying:that is my biggest fear. and i can't rest i heard you have to rest i mean i do and will have help from my grandma she the only person but i don't want to stress her out. i need sum support bad from you people please if you want to email me i have yahoo it's mzbashful05@yahoo.com

Tiffykins · January 25, 2010

Having any type of surgery is nerve-wracking. Really, I had to weigh the risks of being fat for the rest of my life vs. the minimal risk of surgery. I, too, had zero health issues related to my morbid obesity. I'm 5'2" tall, and my starting pre-sleeve weight was 263.

At that weight I could not conceive children with my husband, I could not walk around the mall for more than an hour without my knee throbbing, and even though I didn't have any high blood pressure, cholesterol issues, or diabetes, another 10 years and not being able to get the weight off and keep it off, it was inevitable that I would be on meds for multiple co-morbidities if I didn't get surgical intervention.

I had surgery so I would be around and not miserably fat to see my 11 yr old son (not my husband's biological child just so I don't cause any confusion) graduate high school, go to college and get married.

There will be a recovery period, but once the weight starts coming off, your energy will soar, you'll start feeling better about yourself, and you'll be a shining example for your daughter to lead a healthy, and active lifestyle. Most patients return to normal working activity in a week to two weeks depending on their job.

I know that it's stressful, and can be overwhelming. But, I honestly believe that having surgery will give you the life you've always wanted. Can you talk to some members of a support group near you? Or, if you have a surgeon, maybe talking to some of his/her past patients? Also, discussing these concerns with your surgeon may give you some peace of mind. You do have to be in a good place mentally for any surgery. Extra stress and frustration can slow down recovery time.