people telling me no

[joyfuljoy 3]

I have people that are telling me not to have weight loss surgery that has had it themselves and were successful. I can't understand why some individuals would discourage ME IN that way. They had it and did fine, so my question is why would they tell me YOU CAN LOOSE IT THE NATURAL WAY!!! I'M SO SICK OF HEARING THAT! WHY DIDN'T YOU LOOSE IT THE NATURAL WAY. SOME PEOPLE ARE SO FULL OF IT!!!

I'M JUST SAYIN THAT'S ALL!!!

[teshanelson1 0]

Girlfriend if i we're you i wouldn't lesson to no one, And i don't I'm following my heart.And i know the dear lord will be with us all.It's good you post this thread b/c my sorry boyfriend keep saying I'm not going to have $5,500 to put on this surgery.FYI ,I Support Me, Kids and Him financly right now so if i want to put my income tax money and sale my car to have my surgery that is exactly what i am going to do and if he are nobody else like it they can go to HE**.I figure this, I can get another car and I am always spending money on other stuff (like my kids and his broke ass) why not do something for Me this time w/my tax money.It's not like I will be carless sh*t we have another one .(sorry about the rant I'm just so depressed and so ready to get the sleeve already)So i say to you go with what you feel he** we all live once and i'm ready to live it to the fullest.:thumbup:

GOD BLESS

Edited December 22, 2009 by teshanelson1

[cajun 46]

Girlfriend if i we're you i wouldn't lesson to no one, And i don't I'm following my heart.And i know the dear lord will be with us all.It's good you post this thread b/c my sorry boyfriend keep saying I'm not going to have $5,500 to put on this surgery.FYI ,I Support Me, Kids and Him financly right now so if i want to put my income tax money and sale my car to have my surgery that is exactly what i am going to do and if he are nobody else like it they can go to HE**.I figure this, I can get another car and I am always spending money on other stuff (like my kids and his broke ass) why not do something for Me this time w/my tax money.It's not like I will be carless sh*t we have another one .(sorry about the rant I'm just so depressed and so ready to get the sleeve already)So i say to you go with what you feel he** we all live once and i'm ready to live it to the fullest.:thumbup:

GOD BLESS

RIGHT ON, SISTER!

You've got your priorities straight!

[deedee 5]

Joyful, I find it hard to guess people's motives at times. It might be jealousy, a genuine concern for you, or something else, sometimes it's hard for us to let people we care about live their own lives without our input...I'm sorry people are thinking you should live your life their way (and I don't quite understand it if they personally have had wls, because you are trying to live like them sort of).

BUT, here's an example, I would love any of my overweight friends or family members to look into this surgery (unfortunately most are not heavy enough for U.S. standards), but when I think about my little sister doing this same thing, I don't want it (I know crazy, it doesn't make sense). I have a sister who is 14 (from my dad, not my mom), who I have not seen in a year. Like me she has been overweight since she was about 3 mos. old, but she also has a very good self-esteem. I'll be seeing her next week and although I sent pictures last week so she wouldn't be too shocked, I worry a little because she's always looked up to and copied a lot of what I do. It's not necessarily that I don't think she could ever follow in my footsteps, I just think a big part of my success are the things I've learned along the way with my failed attempts to lose weight other ways. I just wouldn't want her to start looking into it now and getting it at 18, without getting her mind prepared through attempts and lessons learned from other methods...people fail at wls too! But I know it is her life and although for me it took years of yoyo dieting, she is a different person with different experiences and does not need to follow MY path to be a success, it's hard as someone who loves her so much not to want to push my ideas on her. I hope this makes a little bit of sense and not saying this is the motive of whoever is discouraging you, it's just something that has been on my mind this week and seemed to sort of give a little insight to why someone might not seem super supportive.

You know who you are and in the end it's up to you to make the best decisions for your life. So you can always employ my method...smile and nod;-)

[deedee 5]

Girlfriend if i we're you i wouldn't lesson to no one, And i don't I'm following my heart.And i know the dear lord will be with us all.It's good you post this thread b/c my sorry boyfriend keep saying I'm not going to have $5,500 to put on this surgery.FYI ,I Support Me, Kids and Him financly right now so if i want to put my income tax money and sale my car to have my surgery that is exactly what i am going to do and if he are nobody else like it they can go to HE**.I figure this, I can get another car and I am always spending money on other stuff (like my kids and his broke ass) why not do something for Me this time w/my tax money.It's not like I will be carless sh*t we have another one .(sorry about the rant I'm just so depressed and so ready to get the sleeve already)So i say to you go with what you feel he** we all live once and i'm ready to live it to the fullest.:thumbup:

GOD BLESS

I love your outlook on this!

[JudyJudyJudy 7]

Girlfriend if i we're you i wouldn't lesson to no one, And i don't I'm following my heart.And i know the dear lord will be with us all.It's good you post this thread b/c my sorry boyfriend keep saying I'm not going to have $5,500 to put on this surgery.FYI ,I Support Me, Kids and Him financly right now so if i want to put my income tax money and sale my car to have my surgery that is exactly what i am going to do and if he are nobody else like it they can go to HE**.I figure this, I can get another car and I am always spending money on other stuff (like my kids and his broke ass) why not do something for Me this time w/my tax money.It's not like I will be carless sh*t we have another one .(sorry about the rant I'm just so depressed and so ready to get the sleeve already)So i say to you go with what you feel he** we all live once and i'm ready to live it to the fullest.:thumbup:

GOD BLESS

THERE YA GO, DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU !!!! AFTER YOU HAVE YOUR SURGERY AND BECOME MORE BEAUTIFUL AND EVEN MORE INDEPENDENT, YOU CAN FIND A MAN THAT DON'T HAVE A "BROKE ASS" THAT IS RESPONSIBLE AND WILL TAKE CARE OF BUSINESS. YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!

YOUR ON THE RIGHT TRACK!!!!:w00t:

[teshanelson1 0]

Thank you all and try to stay on track and have it together b/c i have four beautiful kids that look up to me and need me so until my income come i will be saving $250.00 dollars every two weeks so i can get a head start.

Edited December 22, 2009 by teshanelson1

[Tracy46545 6]

That's what I had to do too Teshanelson1. I put away every dime I could and saved and scrimped and borrowed. Thankfully I won't allow a guy in my life that doesn't pay HIS own way....so I don't have to support a man that way and I have no children to support either.

Some of the money had to be a credit card advance and you know those fees and percentages are high for that..but I determined that I was worth it. My committment to myself is that if I go in debt now....I would return to college to finish my bachelor's degree so I could earn more money in the future.

I had surgery (revision from lapband to VSG) on Dec 14th and I start classes full time on Jan 17th. Now mind you, I'm no spring chicken..I'm 49 1/2 yrs old returning to college and I'm also working 48 hours a week, but it will be worth it. FOR BOTH of us!

[teshanelson1 0]

Thank you tracey46545,

I really did need that and don't get me wrong i love taking care of my kids its just this damn man that lives with me.thats why i am going from this day forward do what i have to do get my money by febuary so please be praying for me.

God bless,Tesha

[NtvTxn 1,262]

Girlfriend if i we're you i wouldn't lesson to no one, And i don't I'm following my heart.And i know the dear lord will be with us all.It's good you post this thread b/c my sorry boyfriend keep saying I'm not going to have $5,500 to put on this surgery.FYI ,I Support Me, Kids and Him financly right now so if i want to put my income tax money and sale my car to have my surgery that is exactly what i am going to do and if he are nobody else like it they can go to HE**.I figure this, I can get another car and I am always spending money on other stuff (like my kids and his broke ass) why not do something for Me this time w/my tax money.It's not like I will be carless sh*t we have another one .(sorry about the rant I'm just so depressed and so ready to get the sleeve already)So i say to you go with what you feel he** we all live once and i'm ready to live it to the fullest.:smile:

GOD BLESS

I am LMAO - and agree 100% - AMEN!!!

[youknowit 11]

Thank you tracey46545,

I really did need that and don't get me wrong i love taking care of my kids its just this damn man that lives with me.thats why i am going from this day forward do what i have to do get my money by febuary so please be praying for me.

God bless,Tesha

Hey Tesha,

So it's March now... did you get your sleeve? I LOVED READING YOUR POST! Get it, girl! I hope you're doing great, and are on the sleeved side! xxoo :thumbup: