female only Do we always have to talk about the sleeve?

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

come on girls, lets get some good conversations going here!

[*susan* 1,709]

Nope, we should talk about anything that affects us as woman. But once things get juicy, you know the guys will be peaking in here, especially bearded, lol!

[roseyandmusic 5]

Okay, here is a question. Has anyone out there noticed interested eyes from guys as you lost weight? Reason I ask is because I'm tired of always seeing girls look at my husband. Just so happens he is really good looking; drop dead sexy. Then they look at fatty me. There was a time when guys looked at me, but not lately. I want guys to look at me damnit! Then I can have him fight off eyes on me for once :-).

[Tiffykins 673]

Okay, here is a question. Has anyone out there noticed interested eyes from guys as you lost weight? Reason I ask is because I'm tired of always seeing girls look at my husband. Just so happens he is really good looking; drop dead sexy. Then they look at fatty me. There was a time when guys looked at me, but not lately. I want guys to look at me damnit! Then I can have him fight off eyes on me for once :-).

My husband happens to be really great looking as well, but I've always gotten hit on. John is totally oblivious to when women hit on him, yet he is quick to realize when a man takes notice of me. I think I get hit on because of my personality, and the confidence I exude. I've always been that outgoing, bubbly, and charismatic, "life of the party" type girl. My pant size never really kept me from getting hit on.

I guess I'm getting older now, and getting hit on doesn't really do much for my self esteem anymore unless I'm having an "ugly" day. Sometimes, I get giddy, but for the most part, I just giggle and thank them for the compliment.

[*susan* 1,709]

I hear you!! When my hubby and I got together ten years ago, he was an extremely good looking man, well built, the whole package. He hadn't gone grey yet and didn't have the extra pounds he does now. I, on the other hand already weighed about 218 pounds when we got together. We would go places and other woman were always flirting with him. I always felt like they were looking at me and wondering what a sexy looking guy like him was doing with a fatty such as myself. I used to be so paranoid and worried that they were going to try and steal him from me.

[Ruthi 60]

I have to confess, I have been the one who has seen the fat woman/cute guy couples and wonder what the 'F.....? How did she get somewhat like that and why not me? I also wonder what their life is really like behind the scenes so to speak. Is he a wife beater, does he have some wierd hangups or fettishes. God who knows, maybe she just like to give great bj's. At any rate, I thought I would confess my curiosities.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Now wer'e talking! Yay!

Guys don't seem to notice me at all. It's depressing.

Edited July 23, 2009 by Oregondaisy

[MacMadame 81]

No one ever hits on me, fat or thin. :sneaky2:

Edited July 23, 2009 by MacMadame

[BeardedItalian48 3]

Sticks head in---Looks around, reads and awwww can answer from guys point of view..

As far as 'good looking man-fat chick, Some men like woman with meat on there bones.

Most men will stay with a woman for the sex for a time, however if your have nothing else to offer, we will get bored (oh no did I say that) with just that and soon leave.

Looks around again and noone is looking so I will split now

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

My bf can have all the sex he wants but he is still treating me like he's forgotten all about me. I know he's going through a difficult time in his life right now, but it would seem to me that's the time to lean on someone he says he loves, rather than pull away and act completely distant.

[BeardedItalian48 3]

I agree with you---SOME men cant handle the fact that it is difficult for the woman and they shy away. Sounds stupid I know buttttt some guys just cant take the fact that they need to be the support for you.....Daisy---my dad use to say there are always MORE fish in the sea....adopt that attitude about him.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

There doesn't seem to be many fish in the sea around here. Especially since I am such a home body. I am planning on talking to him about all of this again after work today.

[*susan* 1,709]

Just be strong, Daisy. Explain how he makes you feel when he withdraws from you and how it effects your feelings and relationship. If you two are supposed to be in a relationship, he should be able to share his feelings with you and let you know what is bothering him so you can help each other out.

[MacMadame 81]

Some people just withdraw. I think that can be okay, if they do it in a way that works for the other partner. But if they do it like an ex-boyfriend of mine -- why you are talking to me when I want to be quiet? You're insensitive! -- then it's not okay. It's not okay to blame the other person for not being a slave to your moods.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Hey now I am changing the subject. I wish Elisabeth and WasA would come back. I miss their knowledge and wisdom.