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[Oregondaisy 2,021]

I just found out why my bf has been acting so distant the past few days. It turns out his DIL is upset with me over something I said on Face book. I wasn't even talking about her. Facebook is stupid too. Something you say can be taken the wrong way by all these people that you don't even know. I am more than disgusted at this moment.

[*susan* 1,709]

I love Facebook, but as you know, I have learned I have to be very careful about what I post publicly on there.

So, did you ask him if he was upset about something, why he didn't just come out and ask you about it right away instead of letting it fester?

[Malaika 50]

So, did you ask him if he was upset about something, why he didn't just come out and ask you about it right away instead of letting it fester?

I agree - why didn't he just step up to the plate and tell you what was on his mind? And, if his DIL was upset, why didn't she talk to you about it instead of bringing him into the mix?

I love Facebook, and chat, and email; however, it's difficult for people reading it to know the infliction with which you wrote it, so sometimes it can create issues ... they both need to just get over it and both need to learn how to communicate!

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

My bf tends to stew over things for a few days before he is ready to talk about it. It's better actually that he does this, rather than blow up about it until he has time to put into words what he wants to say.

As for his DIL, I have concluded she is nuts. She could have easily contacted me and asked what I was talking about rather than drag him into it. He doesn't even have a computer and it's ridiculous that she complained to her father in law about something that really did not concern her.

Now somebody please explain face book to me. I have my settings set so that only my friends are supposed to see what I post. Why then are friends of friends seeing my postings?

I was in a bad mood that day, and normally I am very generic on face book and talk about the weather or something. However on that day, I believe face book says something like: what are you thinking, or something on that order. I put something about feeling sad that day. Why that dufus took that personally is beyond me. I am sad and will continue to be sad until my son and DIL move into their home so I can see my 4 week old grand daughter regularly instead of visitation being controled my my son's mil.

[Bornagainbabe 4]

I agree with everything you say. I have been on Facebook for about 3 years now and it is so easy for people to get really wound up over comments made. It's the same with texting in that you can't always 'get' the intonation of the person commenting and it may p you off a bit. I try to be very careful in what I say but don't always get it right and then have to say 'I was only joking, having a laugh'. Last week one of my Fb friends had a friend of hers delete her because she said that Elvis was more talented than Michael Jackson! Eh?? How sensitive is that! You just have to be careful I guess.

[Malaika 50]

Facebook is there for you to post your thoughts -- if others don't like your thoughts - that is their problem and maybe they shouldn't be reading things if they are going to get so upset about the least little thing. Everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and opinions--it doesn't mean others have to agree; however, it doesn't mean they should get their panties in a wad if they don't like what they read either!

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

I agree Angel. You can always send someone a private message on there and ask what they meant ask about their comment.

[ash 5]

I also love Facebook and have to be very careful with what i say there, especially since so many work friends and my husband's family don't know I had this surgery. I want to Celebrate, but at the same time, I know a lot of them may not understand, so I just say very vague things sometimes.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

I NEVER say anything about this surgery on fb. I have one friend on there that had it too, and my DD knows, but they are the only people on FB that know I had it.

I can't believe that saying I am feeling sad today is something somebody can take so personally. Hell some days I just wake up sad for no reason. I guess I'll just go back to talking about the weather.

Can someone please explain to me if I have my settings set so only "friends" see my comments, how friends of friends see them? Do those settings not work?

[*susan* 1,709]

Denise, you have to click on "settings". Then go down to where it says "privacy" and click on "manage." Then, go down each section and make sure everything is set to my friends only, not the one that says my friends and friends of friends.

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Yeah, I have it set that way. That's why I don't understand why this person was able to see anything.

I don't even have it set to where people can search for me, or add me.