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Please post your thoughts. :001_smile:

So far, NO - I'm so damn tired that I'm barely able to stay awake until 9:30 let alone have energy for sex. Told Bearded that if he wants sex he's got to catch me when I get home from work and still have some energy left in me. It's not that I don't like sex, I love sex, it's that I don't have the energy for it - hopefully once my issues are gone and I'm able to get in all my Protein, I'll have more energy. Right now I'd say - no, it hasn't improved my sex drive.

I do believe, though, as I see the weight loss and start to feel better about my body image, that I will start to feel sexier which in turn may improve my sex drive.

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I know my husband is hoping the answer is YES, YES, YES! ;-)

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It doesn't do anything directly one way or the other. But some people get more interested as they lose weight for various reasons -- feeling better about themselves, having more energy, etc. -- and some are less interested for various reasons -- feeling weird about their changing bodies, lack of energy due to recovering from surgery.

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For me, the first couple of months I was like Vegas, I had no energy and no interest. As soon as my head hit the pillows, I was out. But, lately, I am feeling better, my hubby is complimenting me a lot, as are other people, and I am feeling a bit more amourous than usual.

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Sex...hmmm. Fun thing? Curls the toes? Makes one scream loudly? Never heard of it. But I do hope that weight loss will result in intimacy increases. Might be easier to, well, ummm, dock?

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Ha, ha, Bob, that cracked me up. I do think it is easier without our bigger bellies getting in the way of things.

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Just imagine the increase in the positions you can do now. And more comfortable, hmmm. Gotta stop, I am getting visuals

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SEX----what is that? VA has like she said not been awake enough. ONE thing I know that it will improve as she feels better--WE like it way to much to ignore that part of our relationship. I keep telling her that I am going to grow 3 inches as my belly goes down....she looks at me and says 'please no' lol----hmmm wonder what that means???? In all seriousisness, once you lose weight and have less of you that is there the sex drive should come back as you are feeling better about the less of you.

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Ohhh, now I understand Bearded's comment to Ruthi in the other thread, lol.

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My weight never had anything to do with that, although given that both Doug and I have lost substantial weight, a lot more is possible.

However, i suffer the curse of probably the vast majority of overworked, overtired mothers the world over. My libido is zilch. DH and I manage it regularly enough, several times a week and its always good, but I can honestly say I never ever ever feel like it. Its not even on my radar. Its been the same since I had my first baby. When I go to bed at night, I'm exhausted and I want to sleep.

It doesnt cause problems for us usually, but I think DH would like to think I fancied him more than I actually do, and I dont blame him for that. Our relationship is secure but I could live without sex for very long periods of time.

Weight loss hasnt changed that at all.

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Ha ha, Blobby, maybe you should show him this thread to give him something to look forward to!

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Today is our first anniversary and my husband is way disappointed we can't Celebrate properly. I told him I'd make it up to him next year by letting him do it with a skinny woman! ;-)

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