I am bad

[LapbandLo 294]

My surgery is in 10 days and I don't know what's gotten into me.... Maybe it's all mental knowing that I wont be eating these things again in the near future but the last few days I've found myself making not so good choices. Normally I'm sensible and have been for the last year or two..minus portion sizes(biggest problem)

Anyway, my boyfriend and I are in Reno,NV this weekend and I had an avocado burger for lunch. I am in absolute agony.. Been laying in bed with stomach cramps and feeling like I want to puke. My weekend feels wasted... Why did I do that!?

[dee257 1,516]

Hope your feeling better ......and it doesn't really matter why you ate what you ate.....just get back up and start new today.....don't beat yourself up with the whys.....wishing you lots of luck....and hope you get to enjoy some of that vacation ~hugs~

[gowalking 10,790]

My surgery is in 10 days and I don't know what's gotten into me.... Maybe it's all mental knowing that I wont be eating these things again in the near future but the last few days I've found myself making not so good choices. Normally I'm sensible and have been for the last year or two..minus portion sizes(biggest problem)

Anyway, my boyfriend and I are in Reno,NV this weekend and I had an avocado burger for lunch. I am in absolute agony.. Been laying in bed with stomach cramps and feeling like I want to puke. My weekend feels wasted... Why did I do that!?

I suspect you did that because like many of us, you are a food addict. Any addiction makes no sense whether it's food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc. You can't change what you've done so just know not to do it again. I'm assuming you are on the pre-op diet currently. If yes, this is how you stay compliant. Remind yourself that if you cheat, your liver might not shrink sufficiently, and then you don't get banded. That should inspire you to stay on track.

Then know that post-banding, once you start to get restriction, you should be able to control the addiction because you will really suffer if you are not compliant and with restriction, you will not be so hungry and will make better food choices and do better with your portions.

I went into this process because I had no choice. I didn't want to do it unlike so many others who were so excited and happy to get banded. I had to do it as I had mobility issues and needed to have joint replacement surgery and at 267 lbs, I wasn't a candidate for surgery. So know that I went into this kicking and screaming.

My doctor was hoping I'd lose enough weight in a year...I needed to be under 200 lbs. Well, I met the goal in six months, and now 8 months after starting my pre-op diet, you can see by my ticker that I am down 86 lbs. and my surgery is scheduled for next month. Believe me, if I could be successful, anyone can be.

So...good luck to you...stay compliant, and you too will succeed!

[line-dancer 810]

most of us did the same thing so don't beat yourself up and you will be able to eat most of the things you love but those things will change also..the protion size will change and your desire for the junk will deminis greatly never think of the thing you will never eat again because you probably wont want them and if you do it will be just a tastes and not the whole thing.. mentaly you will change and for the first time on a diet you will enjoy it cause you WILL loss and its a ton a fun shopping and the notice of others and the self asteem you will gain...it is all up hill from here...get your fills give yourself 6 weeks to heal and start losing this will be the best thingyou ever did for ypurself at least it was for me and so many others.

[ChicagoRose 650]

A. You are not "bad".

B. You are human, that's why you did that.

C. Remember how you feel and think about that next time you are tempted to make a bad choice.

If we were perfect we would not all need weight loss surgery!! It exists because there is a whole sub-category of people who can't control what and how much they eat. I am also a volume eater and that's why I chose the band and it has been a wonderful thing so far for 6 months. Dont' give up, Learn and move on. And try really hard for the next few days until your surgery....your surgery will be easier on you and the surgeon if you have followed the pre-op diet!!

Good luck!!

[GoingforGoal 1,734]

Putting my shrink cap on:

For the most part we were all standing in your shoes.

As a newbie (presurgery) you think you will never eat x, y, z again. You think somethings going to take control and you can't make decisions as to what you eat. But more importantly you are making a commitment, and as a newbie that's translated into saying goodbye to the wrong foods and severing the old relationship you had with food. It's a hard relationship to let go of, terrifying even when you think of how much joy and satisfaction it gave you (taste, comfort etc) (we won't mention the negatives right now lol).

But the reality is, when you establish a strong foundation for your new eating habits, those foods can be slowly introduced. You'll be satisfied off a mere bites opposed to a full plate. Some foods may be troublesome and the negative feedback from eating those foods quickly wanes your desire to eat them and eventually you lose your taste for it all together.

There are alot of emotions stirring before a surgery ranging from excitement to anxiety. And dare I say grief. Noones knocking you on one burger, but let that be the last. One burger won't thwart wl, 2+ will.

Stay strong, and congrats on your decision to become banded

[LapbandLo 294]

Thank you everyone for the replies and support! I going through a WHIRLWIND of emotions right now.

As far as pre-op diet..... I don't have one. My surgeon never mentioned it. I have an appt on Thursday for a Tuesday surgery so maybe I will have one for a couple of days but nothing like some of you guys with the 2-4 week ones.

[bigcheese 50]

My surgery is in 10 days and I don't know what's gotten into me.... Maybe it's all mental knowing that I wont be eating these things again in the near future but the last few days I've found myself making not so good choices. Normally I'm sensible and have been for the last year or two..minus portion sizes(biggest problem)

Anyway' date=' my boyfriend and I are in Reno,NV this weekend and I had an avocado burger for lunch. I am in absolute agony.. Been laying in bed with stomach cramps and feeling like I want to puke. My weekend feels wasted... Why did I do that!? [/quote']

I gained maybe 15-20 pounds after I decided on the band, during my 6 months of weigh ins. Big mistake. If I stayed the same or lost even 5 during that period of time I would be so much closer to goal. Try not to go crazy and gain right now. Enjoy a few things, but try not to gain, you made the right decision with the band! Do screw it up like me. The band isn't magic so its still hard to get the weight of f....good luck, i'm sure you will do great.

[LapbandLo 294]

I gained maybe 15-20 pounds after I decided on the band' date=' during my 6 months of weigh ins. Big mistake. If I stayed the same or lost even 5 during that period of time I would be so much closer to goal. Try not to go crazy and gain right now. Enjoy a few things, but try not to gain, you made the right decision with the band! Do screw it up like me. The band isn't magic so its still hard to get the weight of f....good luck, i'm sure you will do great.[/quote']

Thank you for the advice. I stayed within 3lbs the entire 6 month program so I'm pretty proud.

I am not out of control eating now but for some reason I am having no problem eating what sounds good.