If I aim for and "accidentally"run someone over is it murder?

[Amberley 97]

Alright, I admit I am not know for being the most mild mannered person. I have a bit of a temper but have always taken steps to ensure my temper remains in control (breathe in, breathe out). I do not normally lose the plot. Then there was the incident today....

I went into the office today (been working from home for the last two weeks). Three of the women I work with stopped by my office together to tell me how great I was looking. Was enjoying the ego stroking immensely!!! I have been very open about the fact that I have had band surgery. No reason to hide it. While we were chatting another female colleague walked in.... lets give her a name to protect her privacy... Broomhilda.

Broomhilda ( the _itch that she is) listened to the gals feed my ego a bit and then decided to give her unsolicited two cents worth. And I quote "Amber I can see you lost some weight. You were so huge before. I mean it was time that you did something about it right? I just would have expected you to have lost more by now. I mean bigger people are supposed to lose weight faster right? What exactly are you eating? Are you getting out from behind your desk at all? You know diet only wont move those pounds. You have to exercise to. I don't understand why it took you so long to do something about it. I have been tempted to say something to you about your weight for awhile. I guess even a little weight loss is better than nothing right?"

The other 3 gals got quiet and waited..... The old self conscious me with the dented self esteem might have nodded and smiled and ignored her. Possibly taken her to the side later to tell her she hurt my feelers. The new me..... not so much. Watch out world the Amazon princess is in the house. If she felt it was okay to be rude to me in front of others why should I be the one to restrain myself?

My response:

"Broomhilda I appreciate your candour. Your right I am overweight and am taking steps to ensure that I healthier and happier. Since we are being honest here I just wanted to mention that no one has ever been so rude as to approach me in the way that you have and give such demeaning feedback. Did you have a horrible childhood? Was your dog run over on your way to work today? Honestly the only reason I am asking is that I am trying to come up with a reason as to why someone feels the need to make others feel bad in order to feel better about themselves. Did your parents teach you manners and you just chose to ignore them or were you raised by wolves? Yes I am fat and in time I will lose the weight while my friends support and encourage me. You on the other hand have allot to learn and I only hope that people choose not to be as honest with you about your faults as you are with them. Now get the hell out of my office I want to have a donut!!" (I of course did not have a donut was just pissed off) Needless to say she scurried out of my office. One of the three gals that were still there just looked at me and said good on you!!

What did I learn from this?

1. My anger management skills suck

2. I am no longer willing to allow others to demean me simply because I am fat

3. True friends will encourage and call you out when your getting off base - the secret is understanding true friends will do it out of a place of love whereas _itches are doing it for their own benefit

4. I have value and worth regardless of whether I am fat or thin. Allowing someone to take potshots in order to avoid conflict does not help the situation. It simply makes them feel that their comments are acceptable.

5. Maybe I am a bit of a _itch myself

I saw her in the car park as I was leaving. I did not run her over. All of you are my witnesses/alibi. If anyone asks I was writing this post. The red stains and bad blonde hair dye on my bumper are from a poor unfortunate cat........ Lets stick to the story people.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[MookNana 61]

Good for you!!!!

That was exactly what she needed to be told. I hope you can hear me clapping from here!

As for the car park...I didn't see nuffin'!

[cdinky 10]

Yes!! You are awesome!!!

[PrettyThick1 1,860]

You go Amazon Princess! You told her what she needed to hear and you were spot-on with what you said. Misery loves company, let her wallow in it all by herself...keep up the good work and let your haters be your motivators!

[GoingforGoal 1,734]

ahhahahahaah I will testify on your behalf, no worries.

Some people have some adacity. I have never been one to take abuse and that was a classic example of someone emotionally abusing someone. Don't worry babe, you'll drop those pounds soon enough and will be thinner than her. Than you can chastise her for being SO huge lol.

What a dip

[KAATNS 1,473]

You are my new hero!

[PJkitty 139]

HAHAHAHA!!!! You're AWESOME!!!!

[n2win 123]

---This is my all time favorite post !---

Geaux girl..... you ROCK!!!

(I worked with a girl that was stick skinny and super LAZY, so while the rest of us ran our tails off, she would just sit there & complain how "cold" she was (always wearing cropped tops; NEVER a jacket, even in winter; and inappropriately exposing her belly-button in a professional setting) ... well one day she PISSED ME OFF... I told her if she would get off her lazy ass and do some work, she wouldn't be so damn cold, and while she was up to do us all a favor and just EAT a damn SANDWICH.... also told her the next time she came to work, we expected her to be sporting a WOOL trench coat!)

[lisacaron 5,075]

Thank you! That post made my day! I needed a good laugh and that was it!

People like that are just miserable. I have met more then my fair share of those over the years and they are all the same nasty individuals. Female and Male.

Glad you put her in her place, and that other people were there to hear it!!

Meow :ph34r:

[Amberley 97]

Thanks guys for the support. I got to get a handle on my temper though. Don't want the people in the office tip toeing around me.....I am short enough

[Sojourner 2,446]

Alright, I admit I am not know for being the most mild mannered person. I have a bit of a temper but have always taken steps to ensure my temper remains in control (breathe in, breathe out). I do not normally lose the plot. Then there was the incident today....

I went into the office today (been working from home for the last two weeks). Three of the women I work with stopped by my office together to tell me how great I was looking. Was enjoying the ego stroking immensely!!! I have been very open about the fact that I have had band surgery. No reason to hide it. While we were chatting another female colleague walked in.... lets give her a name to protect her privacy... Broomhilda.

Broomhilda ( the _itch that she is) listened to the gals feed my ego a bit and then decided to give her unsolicited two cents worth. And I quote "Amber I can see you lost some weight. You were so huge before. I mean it was time that you did something about it right? I just would have expected you to have lost more by now. I mean bigger people are supposed to lose weight faster right? What exactly are you eating? Are you getting out from behind your desk at all? You know diet only wont move those pounds. You have to exercise to. I don't understand why it took you so long to do something about it. I have been tempted to say something to you about your weight for awhile. I guess even a little weight loss is better than nothing right?"

The other 3 gals got quiet and waited..... The old self conscious me with the dented self esteem might have nodded and smiled and ignored her. Possibly taken her to the side later to tell her she hurt my feelers. The new me..... not so much. Watch out world the Amazon princess is in the house. If she felt it was okay to be rude to me in front of others why should I be the one to restrain myself?

My response:

"Broomhilda I appreciate your candour. Your right I am overweight and am taking steps to ensure that I healthier and happier. Since we are being honest here I just wanted to mention that no one has ever been so rude as to approach me in the way that you have and give such demeaning feedback. Did you have a horrible childhood? Was your dog run over on your way to work today? Honestly the only reason I am asking is that I am trying to come up with a reason as to why someone feels the need to make others feel bad in order to feel better about themselves. Did your parents teach you manners and you just chose to ignore them or were you raised by wolves? Yes I am fat and in time I will lose the weight while my friends support and encourage me. You on the other hand have allot to learn and I only hope that people choose not to be as honest with you about your faults as you are with them. Now get the hell out of my office I want to have a donut!!" (I of course did not have a donut was just pissed off) Needless to say she scurried out of my office. One of the three gals that were still there just looked at me and said good on you!!

What did I learn from this?

1. My anger management skills suck

2. I am no longer willing to allow others to demean me simply because I am fat

3. True friends will encourage and call you out when your getting off base - the secret is understanding true friends will do it out of a place of love whereas _itches are doing it for their own benefit

4. I have value and worth regardless of whether I am fat or thin. Allowing someone to take potshots in order to avoid conflict does not help the situation. It simply makes them feel that their comments are acceptable.

5. Maybe I am a bit of a _itch myself

I saw her in the car park as I was leaving. I did not run her over. All of you are my witnesses/alibi. If anyone asks I was writing this post. The red stains and bad blonde hair dye on my bumper are from a poor unfortunate cat........ Lets stick to the story people.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Just remember, other people have similar insecurities as you mentioned. And the only way that they can feel good about themselves is if they act in a demeaning way towards others.

The only way others can influence your feelings of hurt and/or anger, and beliefs is if you allow them to. How powerful is that??

Best wishes for continued success with your journey...

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

I am SO glad you stood up for yourself!! What a horrible, miserable woman!! She deserved every word you said to her and more. I hope she remembers the verbal b*tch slapping you dished out before she opens her ignorant mouth again!!

[jfc193 718]

No need to worry I can keep a secret and if you need to, Cousin Guido might be available for some side work.

I was meaning to talk to you but maybe I will wait for a little while.

Take care

[readysetg070113 1,476]

Good for you !!! People can be so rude and need to be out in their place. Ur response was right on and a little car wash n paint job ur carwill be fine I'd be more than willing to pay for it!!! Even friends who do it with love sometimes irritate me as well I know they are truly supporting me but my journey is not easy and please don't remind me how different I looked months ago I prefer if we don't mention my weightloss I'm doing this for me slow and steady.

[stephwellman 131]

You are officially my new hero lol way to go!!!!