Lap Band & Love Life

[Htx_Pepper 28]

Well after many many years of being over weight and nearly (dare I say it) begging my boyfriend to be more involved buy a ring perhaps be more romantic I fear he may turn over a new leaf after my weightloss, as SHALLOW as it all my sound!

Well, Its been 12 days since surgery and hes been nicer than ive ever seen.

He says he thinks i will leave once im thinner.

Question is, will i want him to do all these things, say 40lbs from now?

Will i be more interested or less interested?

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721]

if you love him, love him

and if he loves you, let him

remember the ring is for better or worse, sickness and health

and you being happy within is what matters

i have lost 130+ and i still want my ole man.....and him me

and he loved me 130+ heavier...love is love...not weight

if you get a ring, make sure you post the picture

[kazjim98 618]

What CG said! If it's true love, size doesn't matter.... Best Wishes

[dylanmiles23 2,198]

I have been married for almost 43 years and dated 4 1/2 before that. We have both been fat and thinner. He was very thin one time and it did go to his head.

True love doesn't see size, love sees the person. Ann Landers/Dear Abbey, one of them, had a saying, am I better off with them or without them. You be the judge.

[lellow 1,713]

Ok this is just my perspective.

I loved my ex-husband. He wasn't romantic and our marriage was very much one of friendship not passion, and I had hoped that when I lost weight, things would change.

Things changed, yes. He got more jealous of other men looking at me. But what didn't change was the way he treated me. And perhaps it wasn't fair of me to expect that, because if he had, I think I would have been equally disappointed.

In the end, I left him. Because the fact is, he couldn't win either way. If he had loved me the way I had hoped to be loved, it should have been from the first day, whatever size I was. And I realised that was not the case, but only after I lost the weight.

It's not a great story but I guess what I'm trying to say is this: your weight loss SHOULDN'T change your relationship, it should make a strong relationship stronger. If you can say that, then no, you're not going to change your mind. If you can't, then I'd say it may well break you.

[dawalsh 919]

Well after many many years of being over weight and nearly (dare I say it) begging my boyfriend to be more involved buy a ring perhaps be more romantic I fear he may turn over a new leaf after my weightloss' date=' as SHALLOW as it all my sound!

Well, Its been 12 days since surgery and hes been nicer than ive ever seen.

He says he thinks i will leave once im thinner.

Question is, will i want him to do all these things, say 40lbs from now?

Will i be more interested or less interested?

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In true love it is the soul that embraces the body. So if he loved you before he should love you after and the same goes for you. Hang in there!

[Htx_Pepper 28]

Jealous? This guy has not 1 jealous bone in his body. Nobody wants me is probably what hes thinking.

I guess time will tell.

Hes still eating junk food and im not

We once had that in common LOL

[lellow 1,713]

Yeah my husband was not at all jealous when I was bigger. That really changed when Iost. I didn't even know he had it in him to be that jealous. Funnily enough though, that didn't actually translate to him changing the way he treated me.

[KAATNS 1,473]

I'm glad he's treating you better and hopefully it will stay that way. In my opinion (and from my experience), if you were having problems before surgery, you will most likely have problems after the surgery. You certainly can't make people change and begging for affection will probably just leave you disappointed anyway. There is a chance that you may lose interest after your weight loss and see things more clearly. Only you will know the answer to that. Chances are, you probably already do. I know I did. Best wishes to you pretty lady.

[HotButterFly 981]

Perhaps he's changing and treating you better, not so much because of your weigh loss, per se, but because YOU yourself are changing. Maybe you're "happier" than before and he sees that.

[Zingythingy 210]

When your happier you give off a confidence regardless of weight and size. Confidence is a very sexy quality.. It attracts positive feelings and responses.. Maybe thats what is causing the new found interest.

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[Htx_Pepper 28]

Sooo true!!

My new found confidence has become a magnet and helping my introvert personality transform into a lady ive never been before.

I mean im flirting with guys in the fast good drive thru.

Hoping this weightloss doesnt go to my head!!

[dgoertz1 120]

I was married at 18 and pregnant! Gained 72 lbs. Three children later and 42 years of marriage he still loves me! Now I'm smaller than I was at 18! True love!