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Hi, I had my lapband done in 2009. I lost 70 pounds and was well on my way to my 120 pound goal when my band slipped.(2011) I was not able to eat anything or drink anything and ended up having to have surgery. Afterward, I was afraid to put any Fluid into the band for fear that I would slip again. I gained back 50 pounds before I decided to try and get back on track. After a couple of fills, I found myself vomiting and immediately asked that they remove fluid so I would not slip. My band is not in the "correct" position, but it has not slipped again. It is leaning a little. I eat mostly foods that slide down because I am afraid of what will happen. I have gained all but 7 pounds of the original weight. How do I get over the fear and get back on track. I have to have parital replacement of both knees and they will not do it until I lose 80 pounds. Any suggestions?

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I agree with Guy.

I'd have small, conservative fills until you feel you're in the Green Zone.

I'd also ask your doctor why you're having these problems. Is it your anatomy? His surgery technique? Something you're doing unintentionally?

You have to eat healthy not only to lose weight but to be healthy. You can't live on slider foods. Talk to your doctor about your fears and let him help you get back onto a healthy diet.

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On another note...and I should have said something in my first post...but you are not failing. This is a journey and a learning experience. I had to try several different diets, weight loss methods, etc. before I found what works for me. I don't count the ones that didn't work against myself or say I failed because at least I was taking the initiative to try and find ways to get healthier. Just because some of those paths didn't work as well as others I didn't get down on myself. You're not failing, you are just still trying to find true success. You'd be failing if you didn't try anything while you knew you needed to.

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Failure is purely a state of mind. It does not matter if you fell down 5 times as long as you got up 6 times.

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Hi, I had my lapband done in 2009. I lost 70 pounds and was well on my way to my 120 pound goal when my band slipped.(2011) I was not able to eat anything or drink anything and ended up having to have surgery. Afterward, I was afraid to put any Fluid into the band for fear that I would slip again. I gained back 50 pounds before I decided to try and get back on track. After a couple of fills, I found myself vomiting and immediately asked that they remove fluid so I would not slip. My band is not in the "correct" position, but it has not slipped again. It is leaning a little. I eat mostly foods that slide down because I am afraid of what will happen. I have gained all but 7 pounds of the original weight. How do I get over the fear and get back on track. I have to have parital replacement of both knees and they will not do it until I lose 80 pounds. Any suggestions?

Hi there. You said you had to have surgery. What type of surgery if you don't mind sharing and why isn't your band in the correct position?

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I have a 10cc band and had 3 fills with a total of 1 1/2cc. My doctor does it slow. I didn't get a fill last visit and now wish I did. I see the doctor again the beginning of August and will get that fill. Some people say they get large fills, I don;t know which is better. Stay in touch with your doctor and maybe have an appointment with your dietitian for some help.

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You're NOT failing, you're still TRYING!!! Just because you haven't got it all figured out yet doesn't mean you're failing... You're here & trying to get it all figured out, that's positive & a great step towards success!

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