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[kll724 3,055]

Well best wishes, and we will support you. But I know that that must hurt. What everyone else said!

[Playrider 34]

Altho a generalization, some of us have learned to settle for less than we deserve because of our size didn't think we would find anyone else, or settled for someone who provided something we didnt think we could give ourselves. As we start to lose the weight and make the necessary changes, i think the idea of settling for something or someone may no longer be the choices we make. We will realize we no longer have to settle for anything. I anticipate making many changes in my life because I am beginning to realize they exit because they enabled the lifestyle that got me to 320lbs. That includes people, attitudes, how and where i spend my time. This might be the case for you also. Just know you deserve the best and that most inappropriate behaviors stem from insecurities and fear. Go for it and do not lookback.

[MandyJ 21]

That's really not nice of him to say at all!!!

But I hope this helps ..........

I do want to put forward a conversation my doctor had with me prior to the surgery!!! She ask me if I was in a married to which I replied Yes!

She then went on to explain that "sometimes it's hard for a partner to see you loss the weight as that could make him feel as though he's being left behind or give him insecure feelings about the relationship! It's also important to explain all reasons as to why it's important to you to have the op and how it will change your life and also the life you will go on & have together! Its important to allow them to go through this journey with you as you want them to be happy as well and for this to happen I think it's important that all information & reasons are shared and talked about openly so there are no insecurities!

This is what I did in my situation after speaking with my doctor and my husband is very supportive and understands why it was important to me to have had the op and I thanked my doctor for all her wise words as I would have easily not have thought about the affects of not knowing all information may have had!

I hope it all works out well for you and your family xo